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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have chosen to reach out here, where you are safe, with people who care.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Elektra
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So very sorry for your loss. Take good care.


Divorced in 2010


Posts: 149 | Registered: Jan 2007
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss.

(((lonely2009)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3620 | Registered: Oct 2011
cayc
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((lonely2009)))


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3119 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Ellejay
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart goes out to you. Words will never be enough. I am so sorry that you have had this loss. We are here for you.


Ellejay


Married 25 years now divorced.
D-Day: 20/11/10
Me: 48.5 plus 10% GST
Him: mental age 6 (apologies to all 6 year olds)
Betrayal: Who cares anymore?

Posts: 1096 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Adelaide, South Australia
deena04
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry ((hugs)). I have no words, but want you to know I will say a prayer for you.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1070 | Registered: Dec 2013
SadInNC
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sending you hugs and prayers. So very sorry to hear about your tragic loss.


BS/Me WH/Him

"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person


Posts: 345 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: North Carolina, United States
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(( lonely)) I am so sorry for your loss.


Divorced 1/3/14

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TooAloof
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Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't imagine your pain and sorrow. So sorry.(((Lonely2009)))
I hope you find peace soon


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Isak Dinesen

Posts: 749 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: PNW
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Lonely2009. I am so very sorry for your loss. No parent should ever have to lose a child. There are no words it. I lost my younger brother day after my 21st birthday. Day of my birthday he said his goodbyes. I have never had another birthday since then. I know how those holidays will feel for you. I lost 5 people that I was close to in a two year span. Three of them were young and way before their time. Including my brother.

I can relate to those things that people say. What I have found in my life is that people do not know how to handle death. More importantly they have no idea how to communicate with you about it. After my bothers death I learned who my friends were and who weren't. Those that are my best friends today, more like family actually, are those that didn't speak. They communicated with me through their actions. One best friend would show up randomly and get me out of the house. Another would call me weekly to check in and ask me to move in with him out of state. The one's who distanced themselves from me after my brothers death were the one's that would say the stupid things. Funny that after 21 years later none of them are in my life anymore.

Everyone wants to say I'm sorry. It's those that are there for you that help the most in the long run. Lean on these people. Don't hesitate to reach out to them. Know that I will be thinking of you and sending you all the strength in the world to get through the days as they pass by.

My heart goes out to you and your family.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2187 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lonely and h)))


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((lonely2009)))

I'm so sorry. There are just no words that any of us could say that will quell your grief.


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((lonely2009)))

I'm so sorry. There are just no words that any of us could say that will quell your grief.


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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((lonely2009)))

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I have a daughter just a little older and I cannot imagine what you are going through.

TR


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

Posts: 21270 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Hugs)) again to you


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6808 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
lonely2009
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I appreciate all the hugs and support.

Parents should never outlive a child.

I know we are not the first to experience this tragedy nor will be the last.

Puts a lot of things in perspective.


BS- Me -young at heart
FWH- AARP Eligible
M - Over a quarter of a century
DDay - 9-14-09
R - going full steam ahead

Posts: 320 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: West Coast
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved son.

((((((lonely and DH))))))


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5262 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Toodevoted
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry (((lonely2009))) sending you hugs


BS (me): 44
WH: 44
DD: Dec 2009 but let him rugsweep

Posts: 88 | Registered: Aug 2011
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My condolences to you on the loss of your son. Please know I will be praying for you and your whole family. (((lonely2009)))


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lonely,

I don't have any words for the pain. I lost my daughter 1.5 years ago.

I think the pain will always be with you. I agree try to find a grief group. I am still trying to get to one of those.

Please try to take care of yourself.

((((Lonely and family))))


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


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