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User Topic: What hobbies do you do?
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still trying to get myself moving again. I need to get out and about, I check meetup groups in my area, but there aren't many. I don't have a lot of extra cash, but know I need to get out and meet more new people.

So, give me a list of your hobbies. Maybe something will jump start my interest.

What I have so far:

Would like to take a cooking class.

I'm going to start working out again, but at work so no cost. (This doesn't help me meet new people of course, but will help me feel better) Can't afford a gym membership right now.

Going back to officiating a sport this summer. (that's more for $$ than for a hobby, but at least I'll get out and around people more)

After that, I'm kind of stuck at what I would like to do.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5373 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm an introvert, so most of my hobbies are to get me away from people.
I really enjoy crafting/making things with my own hands, so you'll see several of those listed.

-Knitting
-Sewing
-Crocheting
-Reading (I gobble books up at a rate of 2-3 per week)
-Cooking / Baking
-Playing guitar (I suck, but its fun)
-Kayaking
-Camping
-Yoga


This year, I've added:
-wire wrapped jewelry making

I'm also going to try (again) my version of the Couch-to-5K in an effort to try jogging again. I need to sit less and move more.


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
5 Furkids (3 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6092 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Gomphus
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I rediscovered some old hobbies that I had forsaken during my divorce. It took a few years but I'm getting back on the horse(s):

-playing mandolin, alone and in a band
-spending more quality time with the kids doing activities
-reading. I have read about a book a week for the past few month
-writing a book proposal about my brewery business
-spending time researching my next career
-focusing on finances. yes, getting out of debt is a hobby for me
-running
-working out
-participating in ballet with the kids. I have been a non-dancing role in 4 performances now

and at least one new one:

-motorcycles. I got my first, took the course, and have become enthralled with all things two-wheeled
-travel, on the motorcycle, and camping

I hope to add gardening this summer by adding a raised plot and getting the kids involved


me - 41 BH
D'ed
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Posts: 425 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: VA
phmh
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I run, which is a pretty inexpensive hobby (just need to buy gear -- racing can get expensive but it's not necessary. And you can meet tons of people through free running groups.)

I hike/birdwatch on nature trails -- also a hobby where you can meet people through groups and is pretty inexpensive -- binoculars and a bird book are all you need.

I read a lot -- use my library card for this!

I took up painting -- acrylic on canvas. Pretty inexpensive as you can find great deals online.

As for cooking -- you can definitely take a class, which gets you out meeting people -- but if money is an issue, you can also teach yourself stuff through youtube videos, how-to courses from the library (The Great Courses has some good ones), and cookbooks that teach you how to cook (like anything from Mark Bittman or Cook's Country.)

If you live near a university, there are always tons of relatively cheap things going on -- film festivals, movies, drag shows, planetarium shows, etc.

I do yoga -- I take one class per week through work, and then do DVDs other days during the week.

What interests you? Your library and other places (nature center, universities, rec departments) can be great resources for low- to no-cost activities!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your library and other places (nature center, universities, rec departments) can be great resources for low- to no-cost activities!
This!!
Our library is connected to a community center. A few times a year, they put out a free catalog of upcoming courses and classes you can take (for a small fee). Anything from accounting to tai chi, its all listed in there!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
5 Furkids (3 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6092 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
TrustedHer
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm an odd person, in many ways, but I actually enjoy studying hobbies more than doing them...

Having said that, I have recently studied:

Bushcraft/camping/hammock camping
Ham Radio
Drawing
Cooking

In the past, I have done home brewing, woodwork, bicycling, and home rehabbing/carpentry.

Most of these have groups of participants you can do meetups with. I only go to Ham Radio clubs at this point, but maybe by Summer I'll actually get beyond "study" and actually do some real-life camping.


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5119 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Knitting.

Video games.

I used to do triathons. I should try to get back into that. I did a half ironman once.

I joined a hiking meetup for a bit. I want to get back into that.

I pulled out my guitar and I am excited to poorly play it again.

It is hard to do much of anything with a toddler. These are all things I did when I was single and childless.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 486 | Registered: Nov 2013
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've upped my reading also. Forgot to add that to my list.

Yep, I know there are some cheaper things through the town/library. For the most part though, I look at those offered, and nothing seems to peak my interest. That's why I thought I'd see what others are into so maybe something would make me go oh yeah! I'd love that!


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5373 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TH, I have thought about taking some more classes at a college, I do enjoy that. At this point though, I think that is going to have to wait 3 1/2 more years until my DD if off to college/university.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5373 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
cmego
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I volunteer at the local botanical gardens, volunteer for The American Heart Association. Trying to get back into tennis ( I played seriously in highschool/college). Try to get out with my pup and hike local parks. Shop Read. Paint.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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traicionada
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read trashy YA books


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

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PhoenixRising88
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOVE to read, and have written one book already. MBA classes going on right now and I will be done with the program in November. Once that's done, I want to continue work on the sequel to my first novel.

Once upon a time I did a lot of singing. At one point I was performing somewhere every weekend. While I don't think I want to return to that level, getting out once in a while and being onstage again would be fun.

My dulcimer should be arriving any day now and I'm anxious to learn to play it. And I'd like to be able, once I get my own place, to learn to garden.


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 426 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Animal Tracking - have now certified at level one through cybertracker so I am an advanced beginner I like the way Jon Young and his students teach this.

Bird watching / Bird Language / really an extension of tracking especially the language part. Also animal communication.

Card making - was a stampin up demonstrator for a while for fun not for business. What a blast. Included rubber stamping, also mini scrapbook making.

Pen and colored ink sketching in plein air. Super fun, hard to do, but I now have a sketch book full of sweet little paintings i've done. I love to look at it.

Horses - just connected with a neighbor who as 18 arabians. It's been a long time since I cared for horses, but I go over and groom a horse or two every couple of weeks. The smell is divine.

All my hobbies make me forget the world of little and big problems. They use a different part of my brain and get me into the 'flow'. It is a huge part of me realizing that life is a good thing, they had to my happiness and resilience in the face of stress tremendously.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

double post

[This message edited by InnerLight at 4:00 PM, February 2nd (Sunday)]


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I spend a lot of free time with my dogs. They're awesome- just a party all the time.

I read a lot. I also have a platonic male friend that I meet up with at least once per week for supper.

In the summer, I do a lot of house and yard work.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I enjoy hiking and birding--both can be done alone or with others. There are hiking meetups and birding clubs. Neither are costly. You can spend a lot of money on binoculars and/or a scope, but you can also buy them gently used and if you bird with a club, several people usually bring scopes and let others look too.

I work out 5 days a week at the Y: Spinning, yoga and weight lifting classes.

I also knit, crochet, sew, cross stitch and bead. You can do these with others--I go to a knitting group at my local library once a week. There are also meetups for crafters.

I like to read too, but I've looked into book groups and most fill up quickly.

Recently I've been having thoughts of beer brewing, bread baking and soap making. Just what I need=more hobbies

In the past I've done ceramics, taken cooking courses, dance lessons

[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 4:46 PM, February 2nd (Sunday)]


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momof1girl
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hobbies...

I knit, read, bake and collect recipes


D-Day: Oct. 1, 2013

Together 15 years, married 7, 1 child, age 7.

WH: 37 y.o., EA/PA since March
OW: 26, 1 child (not WH's)
Me: 34, BS
Separated Nov. 16, 2013

Does a wedding anniversary still count if you are separated?


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sudra
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Geocaching is fun and you might be able to find a group for that. Low cost. Our city has a very active hiking group.


Me (BW) (54), Him(SAWH) (57)
Married 21 years, 1 son (19), 1 stepdaughter (27)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R

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TheRealDeal
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just got back from roller skating. only $11 for 4 hours, can't beat it!

I also do:
yoga - once or twice a week
Barre exercise class through town rec dept so it's cheap
walk
hike
jog
bird watch
reading
garden
kayak
ice skating


things on my to-do list but haven't done them...yet:
belly-dancing
tennis
golf


Me: 45, him: 53
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm excited by all of the birders! Why don't you live near me?


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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