To our newbies:
I know it seems crazy, hopeless, and painful right now.
Hang in there...whether you want to R or move on. It will get easier. After the shock and trauma wear off and you no longer just "feel" so much 24/7 till you are numb from it all....you will awaken.
There will be a moment of clarity (like when you get drunk) where you will say to yourself. I deserve better. I am better than this.
You will no longer grasp desperately to your WS. You will think, "Does this person deserve me?" "Is this WS good enough for me?" "Do I really want to spend the rest of my life building a future with someone this weak and selfish?"
Then they will be on the job interview of their life...proving they are worthy for you.
If you choose to leave. Well, what you left just wasn't worth it anyway.
Your castle is waiting elsewhere, so lift your chin up princess...your tiara is falling.
Many hugs and wishes for you all. Come here often and keep pushing through the ashes.