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User Topic: He declined a superbowl party
LA44
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was happy yesterday. My H was invited to Mr. Pothead's super bowl party and he declined. He would often go there with another friend and head to this guys man-cave. There is always booze, pot and college students coming and going. It's gross. This guy is married. She buries it. Nice life. I recently told him that from here on out, I want to know every time he goes there. Every time he smokes pot. I want to know what I am dealing with at all times now.

Anyway. I said, "I am glad you are staying home to watch the game." He said, "I'm glad too. I want to be here."

My son made signs and taped them around the house - Supper Bowl parttty - it was cute! And so was Bruno Mars. (is that crossing boundaries?)

[This message edited by LA44 at 5:44 PM, February 3rd (Monday)]


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2106 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for him. And for you, for laying out that boundary.

And look, there are some things that have to be grandfathered in - and one of those is my long lasting internal love affair with Anthony Kiedis. The spouse gets Halle Berry. It's all good.


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2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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LA44
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, February 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love that term "grandfathered in" Rebreather. Yes. I thought you might like to see that post. In the past I have been ditched for Mr Pothead and looking back I can't even believe I turned my head on it. One of his good friends went so I know he likely would have gone too had it not been for D-Day.

Incidentally, am a bit of a groupie too. And while Bruno is adorable Springsteen does it for me. Those legs in his jeans. His energy. That raspy voice. H did have Keira Sedgewick as his "Closer" but he basically blew that now didn't he?


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2106 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry LA. I trump you in age a bit, and Bruce, is mine

I was away for the weekend, but so happy to hear he wanted to skip his friend's super-bowl party.

Party at home, that's the place to be. Making memories with you and the kids.

(((hugs))) I know it meant a lot to you.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
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Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3763 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
LA44
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nooooo karma! I cannot give the Boss up even for you!!!

Also, he thanked me profusely for the SB party effort. All I did was put some wings in the oven while producing a few bowls of chips but...he was grateful. He asked a couple neighbourhood guys over who are fun and respectful towards me.

I have more good news too but it needs a separate post. Hint: Emerald Isle!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2106 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad your H made that choice, LA.


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catlover50
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome! Hope you are Seahawks fans!



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LA44
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Sisoon!

Oh catlover, I wish I could say I was a Seahawk fan. It was a good day to be one though!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2106 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
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