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SorrowBhindSmile
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I put my house on the market yesterday. I am selling my house.

one more time....so i can believe what i just wrote....i am selling my house and moving.

I am moving for ME. I am moving for my family.
I am moving because i am worth it.

For months i have been under a tremendous amount of stress and pressure. Am i making the right decision? Is it fair to have my kids change schools and move away from all their friends? Am i letting the OW win? Am i tucking tail between my legs and running away?

YES, i am making the right decision. My kids will be alright.
The OW does not win. I win.
I am not running away....i am running towards happiness. I am running towards a new life, a new marriage and a new me. I am giving myself a gift...i am allowing myself to validate my value, my needs. In the end, i am giving my family a gift...because i am giving myself a safe environment to heal and become whole again...and in doing so, i become a better mother, wife, friend.

It will be hard, there will be challenges, i'm quite sure. But for the first time, in a long time, i feel good. I feel at peace. I feel confident in my decision. I feel like its a step in the right direction. I feel strong, i feel empowered. I feel like i will be alright.

hugs to all of you


Me: BW
Him: WH
OW: My former "dear friend"/neighbor
Married 20+
Kids: 3
D-Day 12/2012
Committed to R 7/8/2013
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle"

Posts: 357 | Registered: Jan 2013
sinsof thefather
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Member # 29295
Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you SBS. With the OW living more or less right next door, I think you are making the right decision too. I think this will be a very positive move for you, your family and your R.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

Posts: 1883 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: UK
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..i am running towards happiness. I am running towards a new life, a new marriage and a new me. I am giving myself a gift...i am allowing myself to validate my value, my needs. In the end, i am giving my family a gift...because i am giving myself a safe environment to heal and become whole again...and in doing so, i become a better mother, wife, friend.

very powerful! congrats!


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5286 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
Morhurt
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like, like, like!
Beautiful, positive self talk.


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 951 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YES, i am making the right decision. My kids will be alright.
The OW does not win. I win.
I am not running away....i am running towards happiness. I am running towards a new life, a new marriage and a new me. I am giving myself a gift...i am allowing myself to validate my value, my needs. In the end, i am giving my family a gift...because i am giving myself a safe environment to heal and become whole again...and in doing so, i become a better mother, wife, friend.

Perfect and beautifully written. You, my friend, are envied by BSs who would love to get away from former OP who was a "friend" - myself included.

Wishing you the very best - I am so happy for you!

Hugs!


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 31 years 9/2/14
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS,22 mo.& 2 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

Posts: 5079 | Registered: May 2007
HoneyMe
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good things will come your way with your new beginning. Leave the OW in the dust. A house is just a house. Make your new house a wonderful home.


3 A's
Blinded-sided DD 9/2011
Again 11/2011 and then more truth the next day. Separated 4 months. 2012, the year of truth and reconciliation.

Posts: 70 | Registered: Sep 2013
Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad that you're able to go make a new beginning and a new nest for yourself!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4949 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you SBS! The air will be fresher, the sky bluer, the sun brighter.

All the best!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2463 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((SBS)))

Congrats!!!

Praying a specific prayer for you all.

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4040 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
AML04
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Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not running away....i am running towards happiness. I am running towards a new life, a new marriage and a new me. I am giving myself a gift...i am allowing myself to validate my value, my needs. In the end, i am giving my family a gift...because i am giving myself a safe environment to heal and become whole again...and in doing so, i become a better mother, wife, friend.

Yes!!!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
SorrowBhindSmile
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Member # 38139
Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank you for the support. you have all been such a lifeline for me these past 13 months. because of everyone here at SI and a really great MC/IC, i have made strides i would have never thought possible in the months following DDay.

hugs, hope and peace to all of you.


Me: BW
Him: WH
OW: My former "dear friend"/neighbor
Married 20+
Kids: 3
D-Day 12/2012
Committed to R 7/8/2013
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle"

Posts: 357 | Registered: Jan 2013
alleyk
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Member # 42270
Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am inspired by your strength and your grace!

Posts: 111 | Registered: Jan 2014
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