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Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last year I turned 30....I was living with my parents with DD and was unsure of my future. It was a tough bday cuz the plan that I had had since I was little hadn't happened....my plan for when I was 30 was to have a wonderful husband, own my own home, have two children, and a fantastic career.

Instead when I turned 30 I had a wonderful husband who I had lied to and cheated on, and was seperated from, was living with my parents cuz of the A, and had one wonderful child, and a job I was in danger of losing because of my A. All of the plans i had had were ruined because of my own bad decisions and selfishness.

Today, I turned 31. I am happy to say although we don't own our own home, I have a wonderful husband and a beautiful daughter, and now have a career that not only do I love, but I am not in danger of losing. I just celebrated with my husband and daughter, and we ate the cake that they bought and decorated together for me.

Its amazing the difference one year makes. Today, rather than focusing on the plans i had in the past, I am focusing on both the present and the future, and am so grateful for what I have and who I get to share my life with!


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

Posts: 867 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Massachusetts
heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel you, girl. I thought I'd have one child by 30, SAHM, XH and I would own a home, etc. Instead when I turned 30 I was a divorced cheater, still childless, stuck at a job I despised. Nice.

This year I will turn 33 and things are back on track (albeit years behind due to my selfishness and stupidity).

Here's to all of us building better futures!


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Remarried. Reconciliation is a process and I still struggle.


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy belated birthday!

Keep working on you, and the rest of your life will fall into place.


Posts: 3414 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
Joanh
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Birthday Alyssamd24 Glad you had a great birthday cake with your family


BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

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AML04
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post Alyssa! Happy bated Birthday!!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Wayflost
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Birthday! And how lovely to celebrate a birthday with such a positive post. I am the first half of your post this year. I turned 30 a couple of weeks after Dday. I went out and had breakfast with my FOO, then came home and fought with my BH for the rest of the day. I am hopeful that 30 really is better than 20.


Me: WW
Him: BH (totalheartbreak)
Both: 30s

Appalled by my actions, and the choice to set off several atomic bombs in my life.


Posts: 407 | Registered: Dec 2013
Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone for the birthday wishes! I am confident that this new year is going to be a great one for me and my family!


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

Posts: 867 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Massachusetts
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Belated birthday! Stay positive and I wish much success and happiness to you and yours in the future.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Good post!
Happy late bday!


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


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