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User Topic: Emotional Roller Coaster
kellys2014
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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trying to be really strong. Not doing a very good job.

[This message edited by kellys2014 at 1:20 AM, February 5th (Wednesday)]


Me: 36
WH: 44
DS: 7
DD: 5

His AP: 24, former family friend and babysitter

Married 11 1/2 yrs

D-Day: 2/1/2014 3 month PA, 24 months sexting


Posts: 43 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Washington
annb
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Default  Posted: 1:49 AM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((kellys)))

There is no easy exit off the roller coaster, sad to say.

You need to take one day at a time, one hour at a time if necessary.

Do your best to take care of you, and meet with your doctor if you are having difficulty coping. Get out of your environment as often as you can, you will experience snippets of normalcy away from the places/people that pull you down.

What you are feeling is very, very normal, and with time you will begin to feel better and more in control.


Posts: 7593 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
ShedSomeLight
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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Kelly)))

It is not an easy process, but just remember one thing...you are going to ok and get through it. I told minimal people, but I had my Sister to talk to and my two best friends. I hope you have at least one person you can talk to. I got into therapy right away as well and have been going for six months. We are working things out and it is going VERY well, My DDay was 7/31/13. I can say six months out, that I do not think about it every day anymore. One huge mistake I made was not taking care of myself. I stopped eating and lost a lot of weight and got extremely run down. Please do not do that like I did !!! If you can't sleep, see your doctor or try some sleep herbs like Valerian root. Take care of you. I promise that things will get better. ((Hugs to you ))


Posts: 127 | Registered: Aug 2013
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It IS a roller coaster, isn't it? One minute you're fine, the next minute your sobbing in the bookstore because if whatever stupid song came on the Musak. One day feeling pretty good, the next day barely functioning.

I'll be glad when I'm at the part where the ride slows down and I can get back on solid ground.

(((Hugs)))

We will be ok


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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Sadmomandwife
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs to you. I feel your pain. I feel exactly the same way. Up and down for no reason in particular. Today is exactly 3 weeks from my Dday. It just so happened that I looked down at my phone today at the exact same time that I found out 3 weeks ago. I am so ready for the mood swings to stop. In my head, I know it will get easier but sometimes it's so hard.

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Uhtred
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You keep your chin up the best you can and hang on tight. Sending positive thoughts your way.


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 616 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
forwardfromhere
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. It really is awful, worse than the death of a family member. My cat is great at reading me, he keeps me sane. Another thing that helps me is a laugh. Someecards.com is great for that and some of the more experienced posters here have funny points to share. Toilet baths for toothbrushes, demands from WS to AP that show how unhinged the WS is or great names like douchecanoe and fuckwit. You're not alone. Hugs!

Posts: 34 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: forwardfromhere
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So weird you said that as I've been thinking that this hurts worse than my mother dying.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
kellys2014
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, this is the worst thing I've ever felt, with the exception of the time my son (then 3) was lost at the mall for 15-20 minutes.

Which puts this into perspective.

But it is still heart and gut-wrenching. I hope the OW can't sleep or eat, either. She says she feels "beyond ashamed" and always will and I hope that is true.

Oh well, just have to wait for the next wave of strength and optimism to arrive.

[This message edited by kellys2014 at 7:00 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)]


Me: 36
WH: 44
DS: 7
DD: 5

His AP: 24, former family friend and babysitter

Married 11 1/2 yrs

D-Day: 2/1/2014 3 month PA, 24 months sexting


Posts: 43 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Washington
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