Honey, I didn't see anyone suggesting that.
You get to make the choices that are right for you. You may not know what's right yet, and that's ok. This is a huge trauma, and not knowing for sure whether there's a future OC in the picture exponentially complicates things.
What I do see is people telling you to focus on yourself. You are hurting. You sound overwhelmed, and rightfully so. Don't worry about anything other than taking care of yourself at this moment. ((((CLH))))You can call me NIK
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."