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nick1234
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need to vent!! Itís been about 8 weeks since I found out about my WW affair. Today I message the OM wife to let her know what had happened. Now my WW is pissed at me telling what I am going to gain by ripping their family apart ad hurting his wife and kids WTF. Are you kidding me? Where was my family and his family when they were having their fun they certainly didnít give a shit about us then!? Now she is all worried about his family, now sheís all the sunned a moral pillar that doesnít think itís right to destroy a family! And why it my fault Iím not the one that was screwing around with their husband/father? I told her donít you dare put this on me. Now Iím an asshole for telling the wife and for telling my WW wife not to pin this on me. I give up!!!!

Posts: 70 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NY
Skan
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SHE was the one to help HIM rip that family apart just as much as SHE and HE ripped YOUR family apart. If she had kept her legs together, none of this would be happening. Quite frankly, I would be pointing that out loudly and without regard to the terminology used, and then she would be sleeping on the couch until her head returned to the light of day.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4794 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..sorry, but your WW is full of it. her reasoning is bullshit and she's just trying to exert damage control on you.

..totally shut that crap down.. exposing the OM to his BW is exactly what's needed.

..it wasn't about anything you were going to gain... fuck!!! Remind her about what you've lost here, by her screwing around with a married, family man..

..she's got more nerve than a toothache..

..she

doesnít think itís right to destroy a family!

..what the hell does she think 'SHE" was doing????

..sometimes you just have to scratch your head and wonder... WTF???

..nick...don't put up with that shit!

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Now my WW is pissed at me telling what I am going to gain by ripping their family apart ad hurting his wife and kids WTF.
You absolutely were not wrong. You didn't rip their family apart. The OM and your WW did that.

This reaction is classic shoot-the-messenger. I get really aggravated any time I hear this kind of attitude because it treats an undiscovered lie as being equal to truth. As if you were the one committed the wrong by revealing the truth. You didn't create this.

Where is her sense of remorse? How can she blame you for "hurting" the BW when she was the active participant? This concerns me even more because if she were truly remorseful with you then it would not be hard at all to feel remorse towards the BW.

I would take this very, very seriously. It seems indicative of some deeper issues that have not been fixed.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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lostinthesouth
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

agree with skan! I shared that nuclear bomb with the other bs immediately. I got to him before howorker did. Still to this day--it was the best thing I ever did along with exposing it to everyone at the brothel..uhh I mean work. Made their heads spin!

Posts: 106 | Registered: Nov 2013
nick1234
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not going to put up with it and I havenít. I told her be mad if you want tats fine but donít ever blame me for this the A was all on her and the OM not me and the wife deserves to know. She will find out soon enough because the OM is a police officer having an A on duty. I have turned him in and he is under investigation and may have a harsh punishment.
As Far as my WW goes her attitude and telling me Iím going to destroy a family after her actions have ripped ours apart. It turns me right away from her!!!

Posts: 70 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NY
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