Been a while since I've posted but I just read through this thread.
I try not to come across as judgemental when I post to a newbie. Who am I to judge anyway? I f*cked up just as badly as they had. I have however gone off on a member. Fairly recently too. He'd had an A, his W doesn't know and he was questioning the wisdom of immediate, hard NC. The tone of his posts were straight out of the fog, even though his A was (supposedly) over for 7 years. It was quite clear that he thought he, his A and his AP are "special." After half a dozen of this type of post, I let loose. I apologized to the OP since this was a t/j of her thread and I let DS know what I'd done through PM. It's that type of post that I get "judgemental" on. Otherwise I'll be straight with the poster in a way that shows (I hpoe) that I know where they're coming from. Read it, heard it, used it, whatever.BH Cee64D - 48
WW (me) - 49
All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.