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User Topic: So I have a date on V-Day...
hurtbs
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Shutup  Posted: 8:28 PM, February 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I have a date on Valentine's day... but it's not a valentine's day date. I had coffee with a guy from Match a couple of weeks ago. We both have been travelling for business. He gets back in town Thursday. Here was our convo:

Him - "You want to get together Thursday?"
Me - "I can't, I have a poker game. How about Saturday?"
Him - "I have a BBQ on Saturday... Umm... would it be too weird if we did it on Friday?"

We were both trying to avoid Friday because we're certainly not "Valentines." We decided to hit a Happy Hour for a couple of drinks and some appetizers, as we didn't want a restaurant on V-Day.

However, we're both like "Right, I'm not forcing a V-Day date." "Me neither, sorry. I want to hang out and this is the soonest we both can."

Also I historically have terrible V-Days... hope this changes it.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


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newnormal
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Default  Posted: 7:06 AM, February 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's so funny! I trigger over v day and I wondered how a conversation like that might go. Sounds like you both handled it well.


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FWH 48
D-day 9/07

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, February 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope it's a good date.

In the spirit of it not being a v-day date, I could recommend not focusing on this:

Also I historically have terrible V-Days... hope this changes it.

as it's an awful lot of pressure for a first date.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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I.will.survive
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Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, February 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I think that's awesome you're willing to go out on Valentine's day! Maybe it hints that you both don't take everything too seriously. Could be fun!

I filed for divorce last Valentine's day.

[This message edited by I.will.survive at 8:13 AM, February 8th (Saturday)]


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healingtree
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, February 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Valentines Day....

Just remind yourselves it is Friday, the day between Thursday and Saturday. And it is good that you are both busy, and also making time to meet.

Secretly, though, are you wishing he would bring you a flower or something?

hmmm....


FBS 1st D-day 7-11-07, 2nd DDay Post-Breakup in 8-12
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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, February 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@Amazonia - it's not a first date, it's a second date.

@healing - no.

ETA: My bad V-Days generally have nothing to do with who I'm dating, it tends to be stuff like my car will break down or my favorite shoes will lose a heel, that kind of thing.

[This message edited by hurtbs at 3:08 PM, February 8th (Saturday)]


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, February 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lot of pressure for a second date too


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank God it's not the third date ....


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Posts: 767 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Valentine's day was only maybe my third or 4th date with my SO.


Keep calm and carry on.

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