I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I wish all of us with normal consciences and hearts could apologize enough for these totally horrible assholes that we put our trust in. I don't understand why they KEEP lying. You've been caught, asshole! Fess up! If you don't want to reconcile, why continue with the charade? How can someone hurt another person (not to mention the children) and not have their reaction give them pause? It does makes me feel better to know that there are a lot of normal, trustworthy spouses on this board.
My WS is living elsewhere (as of last Wednesday) and has suggested he'd like to come back and seems very remorseful. But I just can't believe him, and posts like yours are is why. If they can carry on like this behind our backs, who is to say they won't keep doing it? THEY HAVE NO SHAME. I'm afraid mine has just gone underground with his sexting relationship w/former PA (and family friend) or has only ended it because she has. (She e-mailed me and claims to be beyond ashamed, never meant to hurt anyone, very sorry, blah, blah, blah.)
I'm going to not let this occur to him, but am waiting for next month's phone bill. I don't think he's thought of it. I want to see with my own eyes whether he called her or texted her after D-Day. He says NC, I'm going to verify before agreeing to R.
I'm so deeply sorry this is happening to you and to all of us. I wish herpes on them all. Me: 36
His AP: 24, former family friend and babysitter
Married 11 1/2 yrs
D-Day: 2/1/2014 3 month PA, 24 months sexting