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User Topic: Wow! Next step.
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, February 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Went out with a group of friends to a little local place to listen to a band. I can not remember the last time I went out in my town. Years maybe. I have been really isolated.
A really cute guy who was friends with someone in my group was there. We talked and he offered to walk me home. He was respectful and asked the right questions. Questions I would have asked like When was your divorce final? Are you currently involved with someone? General questions children/family.

Then he asked if he could call me. No pressure, just coffee. A complete gentleman.

My long winded point is that someone asked me out!
A date is a novel thing. It will be nice to have a cup of coffee with someone.


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, February 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome. Enjoy!


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 934 | Registered: Mar 2013
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 2:36 AM, February 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy for you. I hope this comes out the whatever way is best for you. We will need further reports as things progress, you know........


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:40 AM, February 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 3:24 AM, February 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! Looking forward to hearing updates as they progress.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1363 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
candle1000
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Default  Posted: 4:43 AM, February 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This thread will give us all hope. It's started like a Mills and Boon story! Your eyes met across a crowded room.

Keep it coming, you WILL have a happy ending as you all live happily ever after 💐


ME - BW 42
HIM - WS 44
OW - Cripple Whore that he flirted with in front of our daughter!
25 years together, married 18
Rug pulled from underneath me April 2013

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Sparkle0504
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, February 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good stuff!


Me 44 (BS) Him 52 (SAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011

The truth hurts, but nowhere near as much as the lies
"Sounds harsh, but she's my wife and I'm supposed to be there when she's having sex" Sal1995


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, February 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it, rising. Enjoy your coffee.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, February 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gentlemen do exist! I'm glad one found you and asked you out!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He called. I was in the shower. I called back but got VM. He called again and we talked. 2 hours later he asks if we could have dinner this weekend (instead of coffee). If this does not work out it has been a wonderful experience and he seems to be a truly nice person.

[This message edited by risingfromashes at 9:37 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)]


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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dindy
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Default  Posted: 1:45 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay, that's great! Enjoy your date!

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He called and left VM. Apologized that he was not in touch yesterday (I had no expectation) and invited me to dinner tomorrow night.

I am feeling pretty level headed about this. I might find that I like him or maybe not. I was feeling ready to jump into the dating world but I am not feeling desperate to be in a relationship.

It is a little scary but I'm in a good place and it will be nice to go out to dinner with a date.


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's a great place to be, rising.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still a bit of an on going saga. We plan a date and a storm hits. We are supposed to go out at 7PM but at 4:00 the snow is coming down at a fierce rate. I call and suggest that we postpone. He is relieved. He told me that he had thought of calling me with the same suggestion but did not want me to think that he was not interested in our date.
Next scheduled date I am in the middle of a technological crisis. My computer crashes while I am in the middle of completing school work. He tells me he is buried in paperwork. Both okay with the delay.

I am not worried. He keeps calling. I am not counting the minutes till we see each other again. If it happens well that is great. I am sure we will have a date soon. He continues to call.

This is a good place.


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*burst of excited clapping*

I love it! That's how I hope things happen for me some day-- we just meet, and it's low-key, and then we just get to know each other. I don't need the "thunderbolt" (for all you Godfather fans), and I'm not really interested in pursuing an active search for someone. I love your story! Thanks for the hope!

And yes, please keep us posted. I hope you have a wonderful first meeting!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Trying! That is exactly how I feel. No Drama. It might work out or maybe not. I will not settle for something because I do not want to be alone. The most alone I ever felt was when I was married. I am not going to settle for something less than I am worth.

Will keep posting.


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FYI:
Doesn't the woman he feels the thunderbolt for blow up in a car bomb explosion? Just saying this to bolster your statement!


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Didn't see this thread when it first hit the SI airwaves. Seeing it now and smiling.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We both had to cancel for work or weather reasons. Looks like there will be a date tomorrow night. What does it mean that I am happy but do not have butterflies? Maybe I am realistic or old or cynical? Gosh what a build up to just having dinner!


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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