Topic: Survey: Who experienced hysterical bonding and who didn't?
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Member # 39601
| Posted: 7:51 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014|
PA-5 1/2 months
D-Day 5-8-11 (Happy Mother's Day to me)
Married 26 years
Trying to R
"Maybe this thing was a masterpiece till you tore it all up."
Posts: 21 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Texas
Member # 42354
| Posted: 7:54 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014|
Yes. I couldn't figure out why until I found this site!
Me- BS 43
Him- FWH 43
Married 19 years, Together 26
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
Posts: 224 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Australia
Member # 41192
| Posted: 8:44 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014|
Yes, had no clue there was a name for it, thought I was being weird :/
Me: 33 BS 2 boys (2yr & 5yr)
Him: 33 WH, sex addict, then 12 mos EA/2 mos PA with co-worker whore
Together 15yrs, married 7yrs
Dday 9/17/2013, more discovered 1/26/14
NC broken 7/28/14- pathetic piece of crap PA began.
Separated, R during divor
Posts: 495 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 42356
| Posted: 8:47 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014|
Yes, shortly after DDay
"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"
Posts: 172 | Registered: Feb 2014
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Member # 27322
| Posted: 9:25 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Yes, about 4 weeks from d-day and lasted for about 6 months.
8 month affair
Two Daughter: 18 & 22
In R and doing well
Posts: 27 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Oregon
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Member # 42447
| Posted: 10:00 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
My wife confessed a few months back. We have been together for 10 years and married 5. We have had HB non stop. Not complaining but it is way more sex than we have ever had. Thus I get concerned about wether it is real or not. For me I worry this is just a clingy response by both of us which just prevents us from exeriencing what real life will be. I also can't get the thoughts of her with the other guy out if my head (even during).
I enjoy the sex but worry it is a cover for what is truly inevitable
Posts: 20 | Registered: Feb 2014
Member # 38790
| Posted: 10:20 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 10yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.
Posts: 953 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: PA
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Member # 42229
| Posted: 11:34 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
yes, still in it actually. though we had a very active sex life before it's gotten even more frequent and better.
Together: 19 years
OEA with at least 2 women in other states, now not speaking to one but the other one is lingering past her expiration date
talking, working on relationship
Posts: 33 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Oklahoma
Member # 18710
| Posted: 11:50 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
we fucked a bunch right after dday, but never bonded any-it was the equivalent of dogs pissing on fire hydrants/fence posts, marking territory.
time wounds all heels
Posts: 5402 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: deliverance land
Member # 36784
| Posted: 3:45 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Yes. Lasted a few weeks but ultimately ended in divorce anyway when he didn't want to work on the marriage.
Divorced Jan 2013
"Don't look back, the road is long."
Posts: 209 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: IL
Member # 27597
| Posted: 4:00 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
BS ME (38)
WH had 2 affairs in first year of marriage
Posts: 299 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Georgia
Member # 41038
| Posted: 4:05 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Yes - oh yes
The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends
Posts: 1898 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
Member # 40669
| Posted: 6:55 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
I wanted to have physical contact with my WW right after DDay. But she really distanced herself, not even casual kisses or hugs. She started taking showers in the other bathroom, sleep in my daughters room. Totally cold.
Now if I think of having sex with her, it disgusts me. She is on the pill too, so I assume no use of condoms.
Married 12yrs, known 14
3 kids 12,10,8
Posts: 127 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Honolulu
Member # 42458
| Posted: 8:33 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Happiness is a choice.
Posts: 141 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: USA
Member # 37740
| Posted: 2:54 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014|
I guess it was a way for me to reclaim lost territory so to speak.
BH - 64
fWW - 60
"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife
Posts: 493 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 28702
| Posted: 7:31 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014|
Yes and I've never had huge sex drive. We did 100 days in a row. Now I look back kinda disgusted with myself. Guess it's normal though.
BS (Me): Forties
Married over twenty years
Posts: 1043 | Registered: Jun 2010
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Member # 42364
| Posted: 9:26 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014|
Posts: 3 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: East coast
Member # 36992
| Posted: 9:33 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014|
Me - FBH
Happened many years ago
Posts: 51 | Registered: Sep 2012
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Member # 42427
| Posted: 7:25 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014|
Yes! I didn't even know about this until right now, I thought I was weird! I tried to initiate the night I found out but it was actually him who pushed me away. He just couldn't. And then I pushed him away the next day. Since then our sexual intamacy has been great.
I really did think I was strange and had a fetish
A: July 2012
OW: his best friend
Posts: 18 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Australia
Member # 41189
| Posted: 10:00 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014|
Starting 3 months after DDay, 1 month into R. Lasted a month.
And for those who say it lasted a year, or something, holy poop!
We were at it constantly. 3-6 times every 24 hours.
Now, settled into a more sustainable pattern. Still good. And I imagine it will be even better when I can get through it without a few triggers. And better still when i can look at her and not feel pain.
D day- June 30, 2013
Me - BS
Married 15 years
5 year old child
Attempting R as of Oct. 1 2013
"Cry, and let your soul be cleansed of a love that turned to carnage." - Christy Brown
Posts: 99 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
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