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User Topic: Survey: Who experienced hysterical bonding and who didn't?
Thiscantbhapning
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes.


BS (Me)-48
WH-49
COW-28
PA-5 1/2 months
D-Day 5-8-11 (Happy Mother's Day to me)
Married 26 years
DS-24
DD-22
Trying to R
"Maybe this thing was a masterpiece till you tore it all up."

Posts: 20 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Texas
Allornothing
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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. I couldn't figure out why until I found this site!


Me- BS 42
Him- FWH 42
Married 19 years, Together 25
Kids- 23,21,15,14
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant

Posts: 162 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Australia
Jls0320
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, had no clue there was a name for it, thought I was being weird :/


Me: 32 Him WS: 33, 2 little boys
Him: EA with coworker, porn/cam/chat site/Craigslist addict. Diagnosed as SA
Together 15yrs, married 6yrs
Dday 9/17/2013, more discovered 1/26/14
Separated

Posts: 197 | Registered: Nov 2013
CantLoseHope
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, shortly after DDay


"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"


Posts: 172 | Registered: Feb 2014
Stillheart
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, about 4 weeks from d-day and lasted for about 6 months.


Me:62 BH
Her:53 WW
Married: 26yrs
8 month affair
D-Day 11-10-08
Two Daughter: 18 & 22
In R and doing well

Posts: 25 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Oregon
brokeninside23
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife confessed a few months back. We have been together for 10 years and married 5. We have had HB non stop. Not complaining but it is way more sex than we have ever had. Thus I get concerned about wether it is real or not. For me I worry this is just a clingy response by both of us which just prevents us from exeriencing what real life will be. I also can't get the thoughts of her with the other guy out if my head (even during).
I enjoy the sex but worry it is a cover for what is truly inevitable

Posts: 19 | Registered: Feb 2014
hopefulmother
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 9yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 918 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
BlackIce
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yes, still in it actually. though we had a very active sex life before it's gotten even more frequent and better.


BS: 37
WS: 39
Kids: 3
Together: 19 years
OEA with at least 2 women in other states, now not speaking to one but the other one is lingering past her expiration date
D-Day 12-24-13
talking, working on relationship

Posts: 33 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Oklahoma
64fleet
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

we fucked a bunch right after dday, but never bonded any-it was the equivalent of dogs pissing on fire hydrants/fence posts, marking territory.


time wounds all heels

Posts: 5386 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: deliverance land
lonelylost
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. Lasted a few weeks but ultimately ended in divorce anyway when he didn't want to work on the marriage.


Divorced Jan 2013

"Don't look back, the road is long."
- Needtobreathe


Posts: 208 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: IL
sage2004
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes


BS ME (38)
WH (48)

WH had 2 affairs in first year of marriage


Posts: 224 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Georgia
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes - oh yes


It's so easy to believe someone when they're telling you exactly what you want to hear.....

Posts: 1734 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
coda87
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wanted to have physical contact with my WW right after DDay. But she really distanced herself, not even casual kisses or hugs. She started taking showers in the other bathroom, sleep in my daughters room. Totally cold.

Now if I think of having sex with her, it disgusts me. She is on the pill too, so I assume no use of condoms.


Married 12yrs, known 14
DDay 8/21/13
BH 44
WW/STBXW 41
3 kids 12,10,8

Posts: 123 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Honolulu
Aceofbase
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes


DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R

Happiness is a choice.


Posts: 141 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: USA
toomanyregrets
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did.
I guess it was a way for me to reclaim lost territory so to speak.


BH - 64
fWW - 59

"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife


Posts: 444 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Upstate NY
Buckeye Wife
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes and I've never had huge sex drive. We did 100 days in a row. Now I look back kinda disgusted with myself. Guess it's normal though.


BS (Me): Forties
FWS(Him): Forties
Married over twenty years
DDay: 1/20/10
R'ing

Posts: 1016 | Registered: Jun 2010
JustMe000
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes!!

Posts: 3 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: East coast
fireguy87
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No!!


Me - FBH
Happened many years ago
Reconciled

Posts: 51 | Registered: Sep 2012
Shonsal
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes! I didn't even know about this until right now, I thought I was weird! I tried to initiate the night I found out but it was actually him who pushed me away. He just couldn't. And then I pushed him away the next day. Since then our sexual intamacy has been great.

I really did think I was strange and had a fetish


A: July 2012
WS: Him
OW: his best friend

Posts: 18 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Australia
LetMeRollIt
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Member # 41189
Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes.

Starting 3 months after DDay, 1 month into R. Lasted a month.

And for those who say it lasted a year, or something, holy poop!

We were at it constantly. 3-6 times every 24 hours.

Now, settled into a more sustainable pattern. Still good. And I imagine it will be even better when I can get through it without a few triggers. And better still when i can look at her and not feel pain.


D day- June 30, 2013
Me - BS
Married 15 years
5 year old child
Attempting R as of Oct. 1 2013

"Cry, and let your soul be cleansed of a love that turned to carnage." - Christy Brown


Posts: 99 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
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