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User Topic: Survey: Who experienced hysterical bonding and who didn't?
LetMeRollIt
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

double post.

[This message edited by LetMeRollIt at 10:02 AM, February 15th (Saturday)]


D day- June 30, 2013
Me - BS
Married 15 years
5 year old child
Attempting R as of Oct. 1 2013

"Cry, and let your soul be cleansed of a love that turned to carnage." - Christy Brown


Posts: 99 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
Brokenhearted49
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, for several months.


Me: 50
Him: 57
Together 26 yrs, married 23 yrs
2 stepsons ( which I've helped raise) 29 & 28 and our son , 21 and daughter 19
OW was daughters Godmother and my Best Friend and has NPD (severe case)
DDay: 5/7/13
Reconciling

Posts: 29 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Medway, MA
BabyZontheWay
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YES! And it is still happening. I am 35 weeks pregnant and had no desire before the A. About a week after I found out, I was all over it!

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homefront
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes -- and it never really stopped once it started. Life has gotten in the way (changing work schedules, etc) but what was once HB has become the norm -- and that is perhaps a small positive that has come out of the A. I believe it is wholly because of the increased communication and intimacy OUTSIDE of the bedroom, creating the right "environment" for the magic to happen INSIDE the bedroom


BS 37 (Family Law Attorney...yes, really)
WH 40
DDay Nov 7, 2012 after WH had A while deployed, terrible boundaries due to CSA.

So far, so good.


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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nope.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

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SeaBillowsRoll
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, for about 6 weeks.


Me-BS 53 Him-WS 55
M-32 yrs
D Day Oct 18, 2012 3 Yr LTA
It is well with my soul
Reconciling

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cantseestraight3
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Default  Posted: 6:18 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes and no.

I was complete turned off by even the thought of sex with her until I read the piece about HB. That opened me up to it tosome extent, but I did not act on it. Then she mentioned something like, I suppose this means no sex, to which I responded that we could. That first time was truly one of the most bizarre experiences of my life.

We have had more sex since D-Day than we have had in recent memory... And the sex has been good. She claims to want to try new things... This is strange since she had always been, err, well, a prude. I suppose I should try these things before it all goes to shit. At least I'll get something out of this otherwise awful time.

To a certain extent I am using her, I know that and she knows it too cause I told her. On the other hand we both get at least some comfort out of the physical. It is perhaps one of the only good things right now. It's all very strange.

We have, for the most part, taken it slow during our sexual encounters. She takes this as intimacy and I have no reason to dissuade her of this. She claims to be fully committed to R and I have been 100% clear that I have not made that decision yet, so the sex, for her is a sign that I might be open to R.

Not really sure what it all means, but that is my experience so far.


MS M54
WS F45
D-Day 1/4/14

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Dobegirl
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes for about 3 months and then all of a sudden I didn't want to touch him with a 10 foot pole. I think that's when the reality of his affair hit me and I came out of my own fog.


Me- BS 44 Always faithfull
Him- WS 44
2 mo. EA/PA with 25 yr. old slut that stroked his ego, online profiles, CL ads
Married 8 years-No kids together
DDay-11/21/12
False R many different times fromJan/13 till Dec/13
Divorcing

Posts: 151 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Northern Indiana
bobf
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes for about 2.5 months and slowly tapered off after that. Part of the loss is due to me taking Zoloft which I just went off of today. Not a big fan of the sexual side effects.


Me: BH early 50s
Her: fWW late 40s (kmom2662)
7 Wk OEA, Skype, Cyber
DDay 10-4-13
Married 20+ years
Currently in R

Posts: 143 | Registered: Nov 2013
2goodannie
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NOWAY!

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bobf
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes for about 2.5 months and slowly tapered off after that. Part of the loss is due to me taking Zoloft which I just went off of today. Not a big fan of the sexual side effects.


Me: BH early 50s
Her: fWW late 40s (kmom2662)
7 Wk OEA, Skype, Cyber
DDay 10-4-13
Married 20+ years
Currently in R

Posts: 143 | Registered: Nov 2013
Deanna
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, but not right away. We didn't have sex for a month after d-day. I couldn't even fathom wanting to let him touch me. But once he did it was HB for at least four months if not longer.
Our sex life has been off the charts since HB. It is not HB anymore but it is great a d much more often than pre- affair
. Weird!

[This message edited by Deanna at 10:03 PM, February 18th (Tuesday)]


DDay - 11/4/09
BS-49 DDay
fWS-46 DDay
EA/PA with childhood sweetheart/ kissed
R - 11/25/09
Life is not a dress rehearsal

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