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User Topic: Why Have An Affair, If You're Trying To Work Things Out?
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best of luck, hang in there, and protect yourself.

As others have said, don't get taken in by words - actions, and consistency of actions over time are the only thing that matter now.

(Also, I doubt there's ever been a WS that told their AP that everything was going great in their own marriage...that'd be unprecedented. No, the script goes that their marriages are filled with problems and unfulfilling -- my WXW did it, and it's a safe bet yours did, hearing from the OM (your WW's AP) that his marriage is/was in trouble is pretty meaningless....his BS may well have had the same perspective that you did, that their marriage was just fine).

One foot in and one foot back
But it don't pay to live like that
So I cut the ties and I jumped the tracks
For never to return

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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The OM is single.

She's well aware there's a 0 tolerance at the moment. She knows I'm on the fence and struggling daily with this. She's told me to wait and see how our "separation" goes. But I also told her, if anything remotely comes close to happening, I'm gone.

I really don't want to lead her on either. I can't believe I'm thinking this way, but I don't think it's fair for her if I know I don't want to make it work for what she's done.

But at the same time, she feels so right to me. I don't know. I don't trust her. I don't trust my judgment of her.

As you stated, I guess I just have to see what her actions are.

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