Topic: They tell me I shouldn't have informed the Other Betrayed Spouse
Member # 39652
| Posted: 8:16 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
She has the right to know there were three people in her marriage. A VERY important fact, considering it was only supposed to be two.
And the two C's....idiots.
Me: Sad, but I will survive
True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.
Posts: 456 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 36549
| Posted: 11:00 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
Personally I always believe in telling. But that is me as a person and not a therapist. You, the client and what is best for you is what counts. If telling is what you need to heal, do it. If not or you're not ready, table the issue and focus on what else that needs to be sorted out.
It's not about who is bankrolling treatment but who is the one seeking help.
Love yourself. You're worth it. Face your self. You need to do it.
Posts: 367 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 29514
| Posted: 11:04 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
YES! #1 to be tested for STDs. We have at least one member on this forum who contracted HIV from her supposedly monogamous partner.
It's a life or death matter, not a matter of convenience.
Screw that IC and find another one with a brain.
Anything less than full disclosure and total transparency is pure bullshit. WARNING! No emotional pollution allowed.
Posts: 3698 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Georgia
Member # 23890
| Posted: 11:08 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014|
Why ruffle the feathers, and break up a happy family ?
Your IC thinks a "happy family" consist of one spouse cheating and the other living a lie...
Your IC is a moron!!
[This message edited by Take2 at 11:09 PM, February 10th (Monday)]
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
Posts: 4133 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Member # 39439
| Posted: 5:39 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014|
To me there is nothing worse than living a lie. It is not authentic. That was one of the worst aspects of my FWH's betrayal, of trying to integrate my reality into what was really the reality. Realizing that I was living a lie for so many years is just so sad and such a waste of my life.
The feeling of stupidity and foolishness was overwhelming, that other people knew, and either thought I was stupid or pitied me. Humiliating.
My feelings exactly. Nicely put.
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
Posts: 1323 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
Member # 41150
| Posted: 5:47 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014|
If the family of my WW's OM had told me, their loved one would likely be alive today.
Tell your counselor to stick that in his f**cking pipe, and smoke it.
Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.
Posts: 294 | Registered: Oct 2013
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