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User Topic: Question about lady problems? maybe tmi
jrc1963
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Question  Posted: 8:55 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have found that as I age and my hormones change I have developed a problem with tearing in that sensitive lady area.

It seems to happen even when FWSO and I haven't had intercourse.

How have you dealt with this situation?

It's interfering with my life and it's annoying.


Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24323 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Estrogen cream. Let your doctor know.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2069 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jrc...

I have no advice except to second PJ...definitely talk to your doctor


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. Estrogen cream or it comes in vaginal tablets which is less messy.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1379 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As we age, and our hormone levels drop off we produce less of our natural lubricants for intercourse. Blah Blah Blah. However if you want to go a hormone free way of dealing with this issue, there are other choices.

1. Olive oil. This has been used for Centuries as a lubricant for sex, and does amazing things for you skin. It only takes a drop or two.

2. Synthetic lubes are amazing in this day and age. Try out some of these. Wet Platinum is one of my favorites. Some are water based, and wash right off, they tend not to be as long lasting, and certainly don't provide any healing quality after.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7785 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think coconut oil is great too. It has anti-fungal properties which is good for fighting off yeast overgrowths.

Vitamin E comes in suppositories too for this purpose.

You can make your own coconut oil/vitamin E supposititories by mixing coconut oil and drops of vitamin E and then putting a teaspoonful on a plate in the freezer. A little chilly, but solid and easier to get up there than liquid oils.

Blue Poppy makes some chinese herb oils for this purpose too.

Vitamin C is a good idea since it helps to create collagen which make tissues stronger.

Do you eat a lot of sugar? That would make the tearing more likely.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, maybe more info than you want, but coconut oil is great. It smells good, good for your skin, good for private area massage, very soluble, and is food grade so safe for consuming :)


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you inner and lady. I knew I was forgetting something earlier. Coconut oil is awesome.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7785 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you guys.... I was thinking estrogen cream, but was hoping for some non-hormonal options.

I'll try the olive oil/coconut oil before I see the Dr.

Thank you Dr PJ for your input as well.


Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24323 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I actually use olive oil and have for a long time. We had a little old Italian lady that lived next door, and one time as a kid I developed a urethritis from bubble bath, she told my mom about the magic of olive oil.
I keep a small travel sized bottle of it in my night stand.



Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7785 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
JustDesserts
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Organic coconut oil. Amazon or health food section.

Previous posters touched upon the exceptional properties.

Best...lube...ever. My BW & I use it exclusively. From a man's perspective, exceptional stuff. From both our perspectives, well, positive TMI to the max applies. She's had micro tearing issue, too.

We've told a few friends and they've thought we're...(coco) nuts!


2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 50. Her: BW, 49. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.

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