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User Topic: Another thing I noticed at retrouvaille
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And this ties in with that pesky body image thing. I DIDN'T notice much animosity among couples as we settled in. Everyone seemed pretty civil. There were a few frosty pairs, and the initial optional "share" suggested some tension. Overall, low tension. I'm hyper aware of weight, especially in women as my SAFWH has always been hypercritical of overweight women and used to say nasty things to me in an attempt to keep me away from him intimately. I've never been overweight. He has, go figure.
I've always looked at couples and judged a man's sex appeal by how he looks and treats his partner. His weight doesn't matter. If he is attentive to her, eye contact,smiles lovingly, maybe a hand on her back to guide her, take her hand, etc. THAT'S sexy.
By the end of the sessions, and with the presenting couples, THAT'S what I saw. Regardless of what the women looked like, whether they were thin or heavy, I saw men who loved them, and heard men talk in loving ways about their marriages to them. Of course, I have no idea into their physical lives, I just certainly hope they are happy there.

But it was eye opening to me. Here were men that DIDN'T judge on body size. Of course I knew they existed, I really have seen them before, but it was tangible in this setting.

Maybe I'm loveable, too.


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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lemony.2008
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe I'm loveable, too.

Absolutely! I have no doubt.

eta HUGS!

[This message edited by lemony.2008 at 10:51 PM, February 10th (Monday)]


Feel the feelings and drop the story. - Pema Chodron


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Trying2Survive1
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((SK)))))))

You are!!!


Madhatters, M 31 yrs
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Separated 5 mos in 07.His DDay,11/07.False R since 07. My DDay,7/5/13."Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

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