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User Topic: O L D profile showstoppers
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I only lasted a short time on OLD. But in that time I had some rules for the ones I would respond to:
1. no selfies
2. no shirtless
3. no men looking for an age range only younger than their own

these weren't 100% hard and fast (one guy had a cute selfie with a funny caption about how silly he felt using one)


So I'm curious to hear from others, both men and women - what made you click away?


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
PhoenixRisen
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Member # 35912
Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I screened my inbox by a quick glimpse and their pics and if I saw the following two I didn't reply:

messy backgrounds (esp cluttered kitchens & bathroom)

pics with their children. As a mom I would not like my ex to have our children in his dating pics


Posts: 500 | Registered: Jun 2012
h0peless
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Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't done OLD but I have looked. I think that as far as pictures go, the only thing that would make me 100% uninterested would be duckface. Obviously, I've read more than a few profiles where the lack of spelling and grammar or overall hatefullness were huge turnoffs too. Also, the quote "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" tells me to run the other way.

[This message edited by h0peless at 9:03 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]


Posts: 1735 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Selfies don't bother more, nor does a shirtless photo (when 18/20 pics are shirtless photos though...).

Things that make me click next:

Relationship status: "it's complicated" or "separated"
No pictures or photos are fuzzy, only wears sunglasses in photo, don't smile and show teeth (teeth are important), no face photos and conversely no full body photos, all pictures have a hat, or photos are super inconsistent (you look like a different person in each photo).
Photos are clearly old (sometimes they have dates on them and show they are 7+ years old!).
Egregiously bad spelling or grammar. We all are guilty of typos, but if it's replete with typos it's a big turn off.
Profiles in ALL CAPS
No info in profile. I appreciate discretion, but give me an idea of who you are.

There are exceptions to all of them, but those are issues that largely strike me as a big red flag.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Triple, when I was searching for my WH on Match, I swear 90% of the photos were selfies and this was the standard profile:

back trying this out one more time, i am an easygoing kinda guy, just want to have a beer and chill no games no drama lets see where it goes no pressure

(But you know where I live )


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No separated
No shirtless
Selfies are ok but no bathroom mirror selfies.
no one out of age range
no grammar errors. How hard is it to proof read?
No texting shorthand.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1575 | Registered: Aug 2010
Betrayeddaddio
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with a lot of the one's mentioned already (and really you are trying to narrow your search and weed out the.....ummm, undesirables???)

-duck face pics
-all caps profiles
-sideways profile pics (right click, and rotate)
-longest relationship under a year (not one person lasted over a year...why? red flag)
-pics with children (don't get them involved in your dating)
-Egregiously bad spelling or grammar (grammer )
-Women looking for "long term relationships" with cleavage pictures in lingerie and "69" in their screen name.....

"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"

This tells me you show your worst quite often.



BH-42 WW-40 DD-5 DD-9 DD-11
D-Day 09/27/2010 Wayward wife had a 10 month A with married DB co-worker Separated Oct. 2013

Posts: 708 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Canada
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I usually passed by profiles with the following:

-Disgusting screen names (ie Lickemlow55, etc)
-Shirtless
-Shirtless and pants/jeans dropped just above the hair line
-No attempt at spellcheck


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6533 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 4:42 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not actively OLD but have looked

- no selfies in the bathroom mirror
- no messy backgrounds (unmade beds, clothes on the floor etc)
- no kids or ex cropped out of photos
- no shirtless photos
- no motorbike photos
- no separated, no married - looking for friends
- those that use text abbreviations in their profile and really poor spelling
- no unemployed
- loves camping/fishing (I hate both)

Probably why I'm still single, that pretty much rules out about 90% already.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1361 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 6:11 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto to already listed.
I would like to add:

No 2 day face stubble. You are not Brad Pitt.


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1670 | Registered: Mar 2004
HopeImOverIt
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Member # 34517
Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will not reply at all if:

No picture

Did not answer any questions to establish match %. How lazy can you get?


Me: BW (50)
ExWH: (51)
2 teen-age boys
Divorced

Posts: 266 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: PA
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