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User Topic: Talking through it without talking about it
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((womaninflux))) I identify with just about everything you have said. Bittersweet to know others are in the same boat.

BW (31)
WH (32)
Children (1yr) (1 due Mar '14)
DD#1 - 9/28/13 DD#2 11/24/13

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Default  Posted: 12:55 AM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so relieved to find others in similar situations. My WS has similar responses. She's in IC and it's helping her gain some clarity about FOO issues and the resentment she built up in our relationship as her way of self preserving. She claims remorse, but doesn't show it the way I read about other WSs on here. The relationship issues contribute to that I think. We decided to begin couples counseling to provide a safe space for her to "sit in," receive, and address my pain from the As. And she's giving me everything else I need to work toward R. I've come to realize that even in the familiar patterns there are variances. This is probably a variance some of us share. I'm worried your WH is resistant to IC. If he's not invested them simply going won't do much. However, if he truly engaged you might see the remorse you are looking for.

WS: 39--2 EAs
BS: 39--me, faithful
DS: 6
9 year relationship in R.
DDay #1: September 6, 2013 EA for 5 weeks August 2013.
DDay #2: January 2, 2014 EA for 6 weeks summer 2011.
"I am still learning." -Michelangelo

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