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User Topic: OP won't go away
phoenixrivers
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's been six months since dday and our relationship seems to have settled down. However I'm in a tailspin over a phone call from the affair partner yesterday. The ww told me he called; she said she gave the phone to a co-worker. The co-worker told the ap number was hers.

It doesn't much matter to me at this point. I'm disillusioned with the continued intrusion into my life and am ready to pull the plug. I've got enough baggage already and don't need to drag the ap around for the time I have left.


Me: xBetrayedBF (xBBF)
Her: xWaywardGF (xWGF)
TT: 12/21/12
Splitsville: 1/6/13
DDay: 7/20/13
In active reconcilliation
"Nobody knows anybody...not that well." Tom Reagan, "Miller's Crossing"

Posts: 136 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: New Orleans, LA
Want2help
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The co-worker told the ap number was hers.

Wait a second...

So the so-worker gave the AP your WW's phone number, under the guise that it was the co-worker's phone number? Or did AP ask for your WW's phone number?

Did your wife talk to the AP? If she claims that she did not, I would be checking phone records.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
7 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

Posts: 2145 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
Uhtred
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, February 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd say to whip his ass but that may land you in some trouble. Why can't you have her change her contact information completely? Assuming that she's willing to do that.

My wife got a new number and only put in the contacts that I approved of. That being our family and real friends.


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 534 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
phoenixrivers
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks Want2help & Uhtred. Sorry I didn't make myself clear but the ww gave her phone to the co-worker when she realized it was the ap who had called and asked the co-worker to claim that the number was now hers and NOT the ww's. So that at least was smart.

I think your suggestion Uhtred is the best of all. She actually already suggested a new number; I'll bring up putting in only approved contacts.

Thanks guys.

phoenixrivers


Me: xBetrayedBF (xBBF)
Her: xWaywardGF (xWGF)
TT: 12/21/12
Splitsville: 1/6/13
DDay: 7/20/13
In active reconcilliation
"Nobody knows anybody...not that well." Tom Reagan, "Miller's Crossing"

Posts: 136 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: New Orleans, LA
Uhtred
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Member # 40392
Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope it works out brother.


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 534 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
mandala
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


OW texted a love poem to my WH 2 months after he first messaged her that it was over and we were working on our marriage.

We went the next day and had his number changed. No big deal. No questions asked. Apparently people do it all the time.

His phone was messing up so we got a new one of those as well (two months early on the contract but the fee was waived), so when people asked why the new number, he just said he'd gotten a new phone. Sometimes he would jokingly say he was making sure the bill collectors couldn't find him. Most people didn't ask.

As for OW, we unblocked her temporarily from facebook and sent another NC message while she was online more strongly worded and told her his number was changed. She claimed it had been an "accident" while she was deleting messages and she respected his decision and wouldn't try to contact him again. Yeah right


Me: BW 50
Him: WH 50
Married 21 years
Four awesome kids
EA Began 6/2013 PA 8-9/2013 (4 meetings) DDay 9/10/2013
OW : "friend" - older, fatter and uglier than me.
Working on R

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