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User Topic: F U, Valentine's Day
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 5:49 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and a big F U to :

Hallmark
Cheaters
people posting all their happy happy flowers and hearts on FB

Ugh.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
cayc
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((tripletrouble)))

Yeah, I won't be doing too much FB reading today either.


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3124 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Chippednotbroken
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Default  Posted: 7:21 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just another day, I'm going to watch Robocop, by myself


Me BS 32
DDay July 13'
3 young kids

Posts: 303 | Registered: Aug 2013
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Even if you don't read FB, it gets you anyway. First thing this morning, a colleague showed me a pic on her phone of the flowers she got...aww, how sweet. Not. I did get Godiva truffles and a card from my DD, so that was nice....and in true SI fashion, she stuffed the card with glitter! I guess she really does enjoy the Christmas card exchange...


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1222 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
justjim
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ladies, as a guy is is used to going "all out" for Valentine's Day with suddenly no one to do anything for...

I wish you all peaceful comfort today. I hope you take a moment to do something nice for yourself.

This is for each of you:



Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Oct 2013
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awww, Jim, that is so nice!!!

Hugs to all my SI Valentines.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1422 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

people posting all their happy happy flowers and hearts on FB

Especially them.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 497 | Registered: Nov 2013
WoundedOpus
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's my 6 year antiversary today....

Double F U Valentine's Day!!


Me: BW 37
Him: WH 38
(DDay: 2/2008)
13 years, 5 kids...Six years of Limbo

I don't want to get to the end of my life and find that I have just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well." ~ Diane Ackerman


Posts: 178 | Registered: Jun 2013
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with LittleFoggy.

I hate this made up holiday.

Sidebar: Thanks JustJim.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 785 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This day totally lived up to my sucky expectations. Thanks for the nice sentiments though


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
myowndystopia
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My STBXWH never did much anyway for valentines day. I'm sure he is tonight though. Gotta impress the AP! But I would like to thank my 22 yr old son for the lovely flowers he brought me. (He is last semester in college, gets automatic deposit weekly into his account from his dads for spending $ so really I guess his dad, aka STBXWH, unbeknownst to him- bought me flowers )


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
SBB
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of my gay best friends sent me a photo of testicles in the shape of a heart.

Best.Funniest.Valentines.Gift.Ever.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
yestopants
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Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FU Valentine's day
I felt sick all day thinking of how romantic STXWH would be with AP when he never bothered with me. But then I realized he is broke so she probably did all the work, like I did. Regardless, family and friends got me my fav chocolates and beer! I didn't have to do shit which was nice for a change! I love my people they are amazing.
still F U Valentines day.
yes...I dipped into the sauce (beer) and I'll keep reading and posting here instead of doing something CrAzY. love you guys! it's truly amazing what a;obol does to an introvert


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 283 | Registered: Dec 2013
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank goodness for WH's aunt, who sent my daughter and I each a little tiny valentine day heart that said, "You are loved" on it.

It's all I got.

He didn't even think to get the kids a bit of candy or anything. I got candy bars for the kids and WH to put at their places at the dinner table. I also got WH a card and a special candy that he likes but can't find very often and I happened to see it.

When he saw the card, etc on our bed he said, "I thought we weren't doing anything for a day?". I said, "We never discussed it.". I left it at that. I think he felt bad. I didn't expect anything. We aren't in R and he's just waiting to leave.

In the past that convo above would have been where I would have jokingly said, "you must have been having that conversation with your girlfriend!". I didn't say it because it's probably absolutely true, and therefore not funny anymore.

I was just hurt and sad. I have no right to be. It isn't as if he hasn't said to me over and over that he doesn't want me. I guess it's just that when he also talks about wanting to do what is right in God's eyes and goes to Bible study every week I think at some point he is going to realize that adultery actually isn't part of God's plan.

:::sigh:::

Next year will be better.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
NeedsHope
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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((nekorb))))) Hugs. I can feel your sadness in your post.

I was surrounded by happy couples and hearts and flowers and champagne. I felt awful, terrible and sad. Sure enough, the OW posted pics of the flowers she got from my ex. People that I know through our relationship replied asking where she got the flowers with a wink. They know he's with her now. I wonder what he told them that he could just pop up with her and nothing seems off. I hate that none of his friends cares about what happened to me. I have been there for years for his friends and nothing. I understand but I hate it.

I wonder if he went to the florist where he used to get my flowers. Or did he just go to Costco. I think he went to Costco and told her he went somewhere better, honestly she wouldn't know the difference. The florist would remind him of me. I remember him telling me he never bought flowers until me. I know now that was a lie. I hate what he has done to me and that I'm heartbroken. I loved Valentine's day even before him. He used to tell me it was just a day but he did things for me because he knew I would love it. Now he's doing it for her.I hate that he is taking the things I loved and giving them to the OW. It is so unfair. I hope I can love it again.


Psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Posts: 46 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Despair
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm heartbroken to read some of these posts.

I didn't get anything either, not even a card.

BUT

Our value does not come from gifts and cards. It comes from being us, pure and simple.

Some of the people who make the biggest gestures (my ex) do so to cover up their lack of truth and authenticity.

It's over. You survived. Congratulations!

Someone once told me that the brightest diamonds are the ones you buy yourself. I can't afford diamonds right now but I did use an Earhfare coupon to buy myself some Valentines flowers and you know, they are more beautiful than any flowers my ex bought me because they were bought with genuine emotion,

So.... Go get some candy or some flowers or some nail polish and know that next year WILL BE BETTER!


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

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