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User Topic: My kids and Valentine's
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had posted early this week about my frustration with the valentine cards the kids hand out in school in Off Topic.

Well, this morning, I woke up to two of those cards on my nightstand. My kids made a me a valentine

When I got out of bed I thanked them for my cards (we have another snow day today) and my son said "I tried to give papa his, but he said he didn't want it."

Now, I don't really care what is going on during the morning, if he's running late, etc... He could have taken two seconds to take the card, slip it in your pocket, and say thank you. Two seconds! Telling DS10 that he didn't want it just left DS10 thinking that his father didn't want something that he made him.

If he didn't even have two seconds, then at least he should have chosen better wording. How about "Son, I'm running late, can you hold onto it until I come home from work so I can read it then?" Something. Anything. Two seconds!

I feel bad for my kids


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((SD and kids)))


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51802 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I started to write something.
I have erased twice now.
I'm speechless.
(((simplydevastated)))
Please please, hug your baby boy and give him a little extra love this morning!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh that just makes me furious. I'm so sorry. :(


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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StillStanding1
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This makes me so very angry and sad for you, but especially for your son.

I'm going to stop there....

So sorry.


Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 647 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all very much. I gave him extra hugs and kisses and wished him a happy valentines. He's such a good boy. He helped me clean off the snow around my husband's car and off of the car this morning. I should have let it sit, but I was helping the snow removal people more then him.

Now I'm arguing with my husband about other issues via email.

I'm going to try and make the rest of the day fun.

[This message edited by simplydevastated at 10:11 AM, February 14th (Friday)]


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!! My son just received some good news. The library called just now. They have weekly contests where you guess the number of items in a jar and if you're close you win a prize. This time it was candy hearts. There was 176 and my son guessed 175. He won the prize!! We have to go and pick it up. I think the prize is a stuffed animal.

Someone was smiling on him today

Now if I can get him to guess the winning lottery numbers...


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

it just left DS10 thinking that his father didn't want something that he made him

Things made from the heart are the only things kids have to GIVE. Shame on your H for brushing him off.

But congrats on the prize! I'm surprised he doesn't get the jar of candy hearts!


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Exactly. You wouldn't believe all the stuff I have saved, or taped up to my work area of drawings and other things my kids made me. I have a bin under my bed of all their pictures.

I don't think they would have offered that to him because they know that my kids don't eat candy and my daughter has a peanut allergy. I can't wait until we pick it up

It was hard for my daughter, though. She hasn't won anything yet and she was upset. Her guess was 180


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
SeanFLA
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why do some people bother having children?

Not you...your husband I mean. That's heartbreaking to me.


BS(me) 48
WW 46
1 son 14 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley


Posts: 1457 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Zombie Land
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I understood what you meant. I've wondered the same thing myself. It was only after they were born did he tell me he wasn't ready for any of it


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We just got back from the library. He picked the Sully stuffed animal. They even printed a copy of the "winners" sign for me. I took pictures and fully embarrassed him, but hey, I needed something for his scrapbook.

[This message edited by simplydevastated at 3:50 PM, February 14th (Friday)]


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
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