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Midas
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My STBXWW and I are in-home separated while she finds an apartment that she can afford, which isn't as easy as she had hoped. (lol, i guess real life isn't quite like fantasy)

<rant>
This morning after she takes our DD to school she comes home and accuses me of stealing thirty dollars from her wallet. I WTF'd right back to sleep and she ran off to file her answer to my divorce petition.

She doesn't trust me, me, I've never done anything to warrant a lack of trust, projecting much!
</rant>


Midas
Me - 37 (BS)
Her - 36 (STBXWW)

OM#1-4 Dday 2/17/2014 pre-marriage
OM#5 - Dday 2/17/2014 <new info>
OM#6 - Dday 4/30/2006
OM#7 - Dday 1/29/2014

DD - 6yo

Filed for D 2/10/2014
D 4/2014
R 8/2014


Posts: 104 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Austin, Texas
RealityStinks
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you buddy!

My WW says she can't trust me, but she can't give me an example of any time that I lied to her. Because there isn't one!

[This message edited by RealityStinks at 10:14 AM, February 14th (Friday)]


Posts: 414 | Registered: Nov 2013
Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's projection/transference: they're untrustworthy so they assume everyone else is. So, if she thinks you've stolen from her....have you checked your finances thoroughly?


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

Posts: 1049 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
jb3199
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You understand that you can't trust her, right?

Never underestimate what a wayward mindset is capable of doing.

I think it might be a good idea for you to go over to the Divorce/Separation forum. Lots of smart people there, who are walking down the same path that you are.


BH-47
WW-44
2 boys-17 & 20(special needs)
Married 21yrs.(together 27yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day: 9/18/09 D-Day#2: 2/19/10 The Marriage Killer: 6/6/11
Heading for D


Posts: 2071 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: northeast
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^ Yep. When you are accused of something ridiculous, and you can't figure out where it came from, it's a safe bet to assume it's something they are guilty of themselves.

I learned that the hard way. My ex was accusing me of bribing the kids to keep secrets from him. Then I found out he had involved the kids in his affair, had them hanging out with OW and her son for over a year before I had even heard of her, and he had forced them to lie to me, fed them elaborate stories to explain where they had been, told them I would be mad if they talked about seeing her or told me where they really were, threatened them, and bribed them with toys and superheroes. So he accused me of messing with the kids' heads, when that was exactly what he had been doing.

I agree to check your finances. And pay close attention to things she accuses you of. I wouldn't spend any time defending yourself against crazy accusations when your time is better spent figuring out how she is guilty of them..


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ Stolen from asurvivor

Posts: 2300 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with the others, it sounds an awful lot like she's projecting. I would highly suggest going over your finances with a fine tooth comb. I would probably also check both credit report if I was you. Yours and hers.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2978 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Midas
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it might be a good idea for you to go over to the Divorce/Separation forum.

I think that is the forum that I posted this in, maybe someone moved it for me.


Midas
Me - 37 (BS)
Her - 36 (STBXWW)

OM#1-4 Dday 2/17/2014 pre-marriage
OM#5 - Dday 2/17/2014 <new info>
OM#6 - Dday 4/30/2006
OM#7 - Dday 1/29/2014

DD - 6yo

Filed for D 2/10/2014
D 4/2014
R 8/2014


Posts: 104 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Austin, Texas
Midas
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've checked credit reports and our finances, she hasn't "stolen" anything, but she has used our shared funds for her affair, including gifts and drinks and dining. Most likely she withdrew the money and used it herself for continuing the affair and jumped me with the accusation to put me off of the idea.


Midas
Me - 37 (BS)
Her - 36 (STBXWW)

OM#1-4 Dday 2/17/2014 pre-marriage
OM#5 - Dday 2/17/2014 <new info>
OM#6 - Dday 4/30/2006
OM#7 - Dday 1/29/2014

DD - 6yo

Filed for D 2/10/2014
D 4/2014
R 8/2014


Posts: 104 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Austin, Texas
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the D/S forum, so you're not going crazy (no gaslighting here! lol)

I agree that is transference. My STBX would accuse me of squandering money, when I was buying groceries (bulk and on sale, using coupons) and clothes (at thrift stores, on sale and using coupons) for my kids. HE was the one spending money on 2 nights at a pricey resort with one of his slunts.

Don't leave your wallet where she can get it.


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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