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User Topic: Anyone want to help me translate possible cheater code?
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was going through deleting unnecessary documents off my laptop and I stumbled across the convo between WH and COW the day before I caught them cybersexing or whatever. I totally forgot I had saved it! Even this conversation was very inappropriate but a lot of it didn't make sense. They are both somewhat not very good with words and he was so good at gaslighting I didn't realize how bad this was. I seriously think they were speaking in code or something.

*A few bits of info first. He explained "piece" meant bubblegum. He's sticking to that story. Sure. Also, the part about the shark was supposedly some video she shared on Facebook. The part "they do?" I guess he deleted the stuff before that and conveniently can't remember what they were talking about.*

WH: Thanks for the split (they sold a house together)
COW: oh sure $1.00 is your cut!
WH: lol teasing...
COW: oh no I'm gonna give you a cut...
WH: ohhh you are?? Lol
WH: sweet I can buy a piece of bubblegum now, everything is so expensive lol
COW: you just want a piece of something! Lol
*The above was through email. Then they went to Facebook.*
COW: you want a piece lol
WH: heck yea I do!!! Lol
COW: board
WH: me too
COW: nobody how about that video of great whites gobbling up that guy?
WH: yea I know....lol off subject for a sec I bet you want a piece! Lol shark bait too
COW: shark? Yes now! Bring it on!
WH: yep I can! Lol you'd go by the water?? Lol not me
COW: chicken
WH: lol me? No way!
WH: they do? Girls know everything???
COW: we always know
WH: hmmmmm....that's a thought
COW: you know that already
WH: how would I know? Nope I don't
COW: yes you do
WH: uhhhh no I don't how so?
COW: I don't know your not your average guy you have feelings. Your not a dick like most.
WH: well I understand. Even though I'm 34 I have some sense...not that young lol
COW: yes you have lots
WH: well like I said you can talk to me about anything...and I mean anything lol
COW: you can talk to me also
WH: well good we are on that level

Nice huh? Old stuff but I thought it'd be fun to see what you all thought.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Pass
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What are they? Fucking twelve years old? This sounds like a couple giggly pre-teens who are afraid to do more than just skirt around the subject of sex, until they can get together and grope.

If I'm reading this properly - and I'm willing to admit that I may not be - this sounds like early days into things, when they were just starting to test the waters for hooking up. But the whole shark thing is totally lost on me, so who the hell knows?


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2110 | Registered: Jan 2013
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know right? I believed it was testing but like you the shark thing made no sense to me either.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow couple of Rhodes scholars there. The proof?

Board - were they going to build something?

This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Semi-literate people abusing our language. Or did they mean they were Dumb as a .....?


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8717 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I think they were talking about gum at first but then transitioned into being clever and talking about a piece of ass.

the shark things, I don't know. Um, if it's not about an actual swimming shark, I'm guessing it's porn where two chicks (great whites?) were "gobbling" up (giving oral sex) to a guy and the "shark bait" is his junk. That might be a stretch though.

Isn't it cringeworthy how idiotic their conversations are?


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6809 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jana- I wondered the same thing! Hmmm...could be a stretch but the way he said shark bait....I do know they talked about porn a few times because apparently someone viewed it up there. I also know she sent him images but I can't see of what. It shows the images as no longer available.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder what "you'd go by the water" meant. I guess it would make sense if that's what they were talking about and he offered her shark bait. But then he says he wouldn't go by the water. I think the "girls know everything" is about me possibly finding out or something. I dunno...


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*barf*


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope he bought her a spelling book for Valentine's Day!


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7285 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
outside4me
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cringeworthy dialogue to be sure. My opinion is the shark thing is about PA, and the "don't go near the water' is sounding each other out on their willingness to PA. Hence the whole, girls always know (men think with their penis without regard to consequence), but him "not being a dick like most men he has feelings" is a compliment to him and testing his willingness to PA. Maybe a test to see if he actually has love for her and not just a desire to PA. Seriously whacked out no matter how you slice it. Good luck to you!

Posts: 218 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Colorado
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lynnm1947- Luckily they are no longer in contact. He cut off all contact in October FINALLY and quit working for the same company as her in November. This conversation was back in July.


outside4me- You could be right. It definitely doesn't make sense the way it is so it has to be something they talked about before or something. I think he was deleting as he was going too. I had been alerted by other conversations earlier so I was sort of watching that day but on and off. The next day I logged into his facebook and stayed logged in all day which is how I was able to catch them cybersexing. I even took screen shots. He still can't "remember" what this conversation meant. Such bullshit.

[This message edited by cl131716 at 3:45 PM, February 14th (Friday)]


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well we all know what the piece means..started out gum then , omg you said piece haha like piece of ass.. the shark thing prob has deleted sections but testing waters for interest in something more...that's my take. I wonder if they are at all embarrassed by how immature this looks...


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5134 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
turtle72
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my.

To me it reads he kept pushing for sexual innuendo and she was going along, but pushing for more of a relationship - hence the:

"COW: I don't know your not your average guy you have feelings. Your not a dick like most.
WH: well I understand. Even though I'm 34 I have some sense...not that young lol
COW: yes you have lots
WH: well like I said you can talk to me about anything...and I mean anything lol
COW: you can talk to me also
WH: well good we are on that level

He said she could "talk to him about anything" - he meant sex.

She said "you can talk to me also" - she meant "I will take any response as love. I will put out and it will be the best sex you ever had and, my self esteem issues will be solved and you will love me and want babies"


Me: 41 BS/WW/BS
2 kids 9 & 11, 3 steps 20, 8 and 3
BS 1st DDay 10/14/08, 5 mo. PA w/ MOW
WW 2nd D-Day 3/22/10, my exit A with HS BF
Separated 4/19/10
Married H #2 10/8/11
BS latest Dday 12/28/13 - PA w/ single COW

Posts: 2207 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Massachusetts
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He said she could "talk to him about anything" - he meant sex.

She said "you can talk to me also" - she meant "I will take any response as love. I will put out and it will be the best sex you ever had and, my self esteem issues will be solved and you will love me and want babies"

After the whole NC fiasco it was very obvious she was very into him. I could tell from many of their conversations that she wanted him, though she later denied it. She said many times "cl131716 is a lucky girl". Here is the kicker....this woman was 15-20 years older than my WH. She was married and had been for 24 years. She claimed her husband was mean to her and cheating on her. That was one thing she would talk to my WH about many times.

It's interesting you said he was interested in sex. He claims he never had any intentions to actually have sex, he just liked the attention she gave him. Now looking back on this conversation and thinking about other things he said to her....I think you may be right.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Uhtred
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All I could make was that your husband has no sense at all.


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 616 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They are flirting. And not very well.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9801 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
turtle72
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He may truly not have intended to have sex, but his banter was sexual, no question there.


Me: 41 BS/WW/BS
2 kids 9 & 11, 3 steps 20, 8 and 3
BS 1st DDay 10/14/08, 5 mo. PA w/ MOW
WW 2nd D-Day 3/22/10, my exit A with HS BF
Separated 4/19/10
Married H #2 10/8/11
BS latest Dday 12/28/13 - PA w/ single COW

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