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User Topic: F* that guy
NoGoodUsername
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fair warning, this is going to be a little out there. Kind of a vent, kind of taking a stand.

F* that guy. You know, the one that instead of working on his marriage when things got a little rough planted his flag next to someone else.

F* that guy. The one that thought arranging to add someone else to the bedroom would actually solve a problem instead of making things worse than they ever would have been before.

F* that guy. The one that put his jollies and his bruised little feel-bads ahead of the most important thing his wife ever did in her life.

F* that guy. The one that spent so many years gorging on cake and ego kibble that that he forgot what honesty tasted like.

That guy was the wayward me and he's not welcome around here. He did a lot of bad things and broke our marriage, broke me and broke my BW. There are a lot of things that need to be tossed, fixed and replaced because of him and it's going to be forever in the building.

There is nothing more important to work on in the world than our Garden; there is only one place to plant a flag.

There is only room in the bed for her, the cats and me, if they let me.

There is no little hurt, no little pleasure that will ever compare to the things that we build with each other.

There is no cake that I like better than my wife and I find that I've lost my taste for kibble.

Let's till the soil, grow some vegetables, plant some flowers. I want to feel the sunlight on my face and leave no recess for secrets to hide in.

I'm not fixed yet but I'm committed. F* that guy, let's walk in the sun.


Me: WH
Her: BW
Dday 7/11/13
"May you be protected from hearts that are not humble, tongues that are not wise and eyes that have forgotten how to cry."

Posts: 256 | Registered: Aug 2013
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9952 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
marionwendy
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Member # 41303
Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your awesome! Wish my WH would write me this note!


BS-49
WS-50
Married-18
Together-21
Children-2

Life is not measured by the breaths we take
but by the moments that take our breath away.


Posts: 222 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: canada
Joanh
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Member # 39146
Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is good:-)


BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

Posts: 437 | Registered: Apr 2013
CantLoseHope
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I give major props to you!


"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"


Posts: 172 | Registered: Feb 2014
3xloser
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you. I've met that guy in myself. F him too.

Posts: 139 | Registered: Feb 2012
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love. This.

Well done NGU.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2577 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
5674emt
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Member # 40012
Wink  Posted: 9:21 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 53
WH 44
M 14 years at time of DD
2 young daughters
DD 12-8-12
OW=Xfriend
A-3 YEARS and her husband was an accomplice.
In R, IC, & MC Since 1 week after DD. On the mend with the help of God, Friends and Family.

Posts: 89 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Central FL
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4732 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
newnormal
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
Sadmumma
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Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You made me cry.

But more power to you to see it and become a better person.

All WS should read that, daily.


On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 1:14 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is wonderful


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1261 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 2:10 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post!


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

Posts: 1892 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: UK
mindbody
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sharing this with WSO. Love the message.

Posts: 308 | Registered: Mar 2010
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice vent NGU. Good stuff.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6423 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
Prayingforhope
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Member # 41801
Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, February 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brilliant...


WH 41
BS 40
D-Day Oct 28th, 2013
Together 18 years
Three amazing boys 12, 9 & 6
Praying for hope daily

Posts: 260 | Registered: Dec 2013
Stillheart
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Member # 27322
Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great message and attitude for positive change.


Me:63 BH
Her:54 WW
Married: 27yrs
8 month affair
D-Day 11-10-08
Two Daughter: 18 & 22
In R and doing well

Posts: 27 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Oregon
LifeIsTooWeird
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

F* that guy indeed! But praise be to the woman who helped you come to terms with that realization. The cats on the other hand may be harder to persuade, because they held her while she cried, they watched you, judged you, they watched her, they sympathized, and those animals sometimes have a harder time forgetting and forgiving like us betrayeds. Waywards underestimate the bonds that grow stronger between a betrayed and their helpless dependents when the wayward is not there. When you have the cats approval again you'll know you are indeed home. Best of luck on your continuing growth in life, love and feline psychology.


Me - GF (38)
Him - BF (33)
DDay - 08/13
Together 8 Years
In R

Posts: 133 | Registered: Jan 2014
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