I had a mini-victory that I want to share...
I was verifying WH's trip out of town with his friends and texted,
Nekorb: your trip is ABC, right? You know, that's during the kids' spring break.
WH: I ASKED you, you said it wasn't during their break
Nekorb: no. You told me when you gave me the dates that it wasn't during their break. I had no idea when break was/is.
WH: I asked you and you told me it wasn't during any of the kids' breaks
:::silence whilst Nekorb flips back pages and pages of texts on her phone to the one that says...wait for it...
WH to Nekorb: " I'm thinking of going on trip dates ABC. Any issue with family stuff? I know it isn't any of the kids spring break"
...Nekorb forwards text to WH with explanation that it's forwarded in its original form:::
WH: why do you still have that text?
Then he actually continued to try and blame me. Are you kidding me???
ETA: this IS an example of gaslighting, right?