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User Topic: Triggers... Here are mine
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His wedding ring, he never removed it.
His uniform.
Him coming home late from work.
My initials. MOW and I have same first. initial. He told MOW he would get an "S" tattoo for her but would tell me it was for me.
His car.
Anything Mormon. MOW is a Mormon
Not responding to calls/texts from me or our children.
Her name.
Him touching me.
Him lying and swearing he's not lying.

Me: 46 WH: 42 Married 18 years
MOW: 27
Dday: Aug 12,2013, TT-still??
DS 16, DD 14

Posts: 7 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: where the nightmares came to stay
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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This used to be a much longer list for me... Almost a year later, I guess I am healing. Here are some things that still sting a bit:

Her name (its unusual)
Her hometown
The city where they now live together
Pendleton Whiskey (found a bottle they'd been sharing, in OUR bedroom!)
4door hardtop Jeep Wranglers, though thankfully he has now sold his
Diet Rockstar (his addiction)
Pawn Stars (another addiction. I hated it)
Movies/shows with an adultery theme
Las Vegas

Some things that were triggers, that I have now reclaimed for myself:

The country bar where I dance, where we used to go together, and even went with OW and her boyfriend once
Many different types of music I couldn't listen too because they were either triggery or just too sad
The house I live in, that used to be ours
The airport. I had a complete breakdown there, but the last trip I took, I did fine
SEX. Yeah.

And last but not least, hopefully... Hawaii. The place we got married, honeymooned, and revisited two years later. I've never been there without him, but I'm headed there (alone!) in three weeks. Wish me luck.

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin

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