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broken <3
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Flame  Posted: 1:26 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well everything seemed to be going fine after I let him come back home. He was angry - at me! For kicking him out though. Shoulda had my antenna up after that but nope. I fell for it. He started IC, passed his test and his blood tests for stds came back clear. But something was nagging me. It felt off. So I used his cell phone and lo and behold - he had contact with his old pot dealer. He said he just hung out at his work and I knew it was lies. But I fell for it. His liver tests came back inflamed and I shoulda took that for a red flag too. But I rug swept it all. I asked him several times what he did while he was gone, I made it a bottom line to not be here if he got high. But he lied lied lied. Right to my face. He finally admitted it and he's gone again. I'm so weak I feel like throwing up. He's been gone since Saturday and now he's NC. I told him I was mad and why and said I don't want him here. He was quiet and said all he wanted was for us to be a family. I said I did too but not with a cheater, liar and pot head. Help me keep on track people. I'm a mess.
Hanging in here for the twins. Made calls to L. Appointment tomorrow. But this doesn't negate the fact I feel like a fool.


Me - BS mother of 15 month old identical twin girls (conceived during HB)
Him - serial cheater
R? Still not sure if this is a deal breaker...

Posts: 459 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: West coast Canada
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((broken <3)))

Not a fool, just someone who loves someone who can/won't stay straight.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10440 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Truly
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with Sisoon,

You are not a fool, there's no shame in loving someone and giving people the gift of second chances, it merely speaks of your humanity.

You're going to be fine, you are strong and loving.

(((((broken<3))))


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If all he truly, TRULY, wanted, was for all of you to be a family, then he knew precisely how to accomplish that. Yet he pissed or toked it away. For a momentary high. His actions do not match his words. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4966 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
broken <3
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah. It's never about me, the family or anything any normal person would cherish. It's always about him. I'm so heartbroken.


Me - BS mother of 15 month old identical twin girls (conceived during HB)
Him - serial cheater
R? Still not sure if this is a deal breaker...

Posts: 459 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: West coast Canada
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