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User Topic: Wedding rings what did you do?
fst86411
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I took mine off on d day, but put it back on for a while. Finally removed it and told my WW that it just reminded me of all the hurt. Told her I would never wear it again but in time if we R that she could get me a new one. As for her that was one of the big signs for me. She took her rings off at the time of her affair. She now wears her rings, they were purchased by me so no sentimental value for me other than how I felt when I gave them to her.


Met 1997
Married 2002
D-Day July 8, 2012

Who knows what went on?


Posts: 63 | Registered: Dec 2013
beautytoashes5
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My engagement ring was stolen many years ago. It was never replaced. My 1st wedding band I lost during our honeymoon. My 2nd wedding band was stolen from our home. I'm thinking the OW stole it. My husband wore his band for maybe a year. He never wore it again. Now it makes sense that my husband never cared that I didn't have wedding rings. He was involved in his affair for more than half of our 12 year marriage. So many things make sense now. Sigh.

Posts: 93 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Southern California
Simple
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He had a job when we were first married that didn't allow any jewelry while at work because it was dangerous, so he just never wore one.

I know a man who has a similar job and I know I've been in those jobs before where rings can be dangerous, any jewelry actually. You know what this man did? He went to the tattoo parlor and had a wedding ring tattooed where it was supposed to go. That's one dedicated guy as far as I'm concerned.


Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


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AndreaL
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Took it off and gave it to my husband. I will never wear that ring again. I demanded he remove his as well. He touched her with it. It's tainted forever.


Me:35
Hubby:38
Kids ages: 2 and 5
Married: 8 years
DDAY: Dec 1 2013
Affair: 2 months EA and PA
Status: Separted. Sigh...I wish I could forgive 😞

Update: attempting to reconcile


Posts: 229 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Canada
beautytoashes5
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Content  Posted: 5:46 PM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Simple--- wow! That's amazing... There is love out there. Thanks for sharing

Posts: 93 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Southern California
Breezy150
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Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Simple that is a great idea wish I would have thought of it, of course it would be hard to rip off his finger now.


I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo


Posts: 544 | Registered: Feb 2014
FaceFacts
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I removed the ring on D-Day and threw it across the house. I later collected it and put it in a draw. I haven't worn it since. I will never wear it again.
She lost her ring years ago at the beach when a strong wave lifted it from her finger.
I used to spin the ring as a habit and I still find that I try to do that then realize the feeling of the ring on my finger is a ghost.

[This message edited by FaceFacts at 8:54 AM, February 21st (Friday)]


D-day 1/25/14
BH = Me
WW = Her
2 children
Married 20years
Face Facts

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FaceFacts
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by FaceFacts at 8:55 AM, February 21st (Friday)]


D-day 1/25/14
BH = Me
WW = Her
2 children
Married 20years
Face Facts

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mandala
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Default  Posted: 11:56 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess I'm the odd one out here. I still wear mine.
I see it as a symbol of MY fidelity, not his.

My ring shows the world that I'm a faithful married woman. I did not lose the right to wear it. I did nothing wrong. I did not violate the vow I made when I accepted it- to be faithful to him.

My vows still mean something to me, so I still wear it.

If our circumstances were different, I might not feel this way. And I'm sure if my story were the same as some here, I would be tossing him out the door and selling these suckers on ebay.


Me: BW 50
Him: WH 50
Married 21 years
Four awesome kids
EA Began 6/2013 PA 8-9/2013 (4 meetings) DDay 9/10/2013
OW : "friend" - older, fatter and uglier than me.
Working on R

Posts: 52 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: usa
sparkle09
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is off and I threw his in the trash, he never took it off and I couldn't stand to look at it. I also made him stop wearing a very expensive watch I gave him he never took off.


Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker

Posts: 113 | Registered: Jan 2014
Breezy150
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great mandala a whole new way to look at things, I think that is fantastic.


I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo


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