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justme29
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So since D-day he has pass-worded the cell phone account. He claims my looking at his usage caused problems. I say him screwing the B caused problems. It's been over two years since I asked that he stop contact. My daughter need to replace her phone. I asked again for the code for Verizon. No way he won't give it to me. Anyone believe he ever stopped the contact?


Justme
BS - 49
WH -50
Married 30 years.
2 daughters, 1 granddaughter.
D-Day 11-14-11
Why am I still here?

Posts: 40 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Idaho
Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like he is still having an affair.


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

Posts: 2211 | Registered: Feb 2010
brokendancer7
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is no reason you shouldn't be able to look. I look at ours all the time, and can't see how you could do anything to mess it up. Sounds like he is hiding something, unfortunately.


Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 56
Married 34 yrs

Latest DD - April 2013, PA


Posts: 186 | Registered: Jul 2013
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3282 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
outtanowhere
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will confirm what you already know. He is protecting a secret. I'm sorry. I know how that feels. I got the password and all I could say is OMG.


BS - 57
SAWH - 60 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 37 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

Posts: 710 | Registered: Apr 2013
scarednbroken
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Part of a genuine R is no password you don't know. He isn't in R honey. Sorry.


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
BrooklynLove
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He never stopped contact . I was able to get his phones pass code with a nanny cam. He always sits on the same chair after work before dinner is ready, so I put the nanny cam behind and above his chair. Someone is calling him on unknown and magicjack numbers. I tried calling them put they have some kind of block that only the called phone can contact them. I am not sad, crazy, or emotional. I find myself being very calm and I will continue to monitor. He is always home, we go everywhere together on our off days and he is not as angry. When there is no transparency it's because the are still lying.


Will never be naive again...

BW - Me (28)
WH - Him my JH sweetheart (33)
Married - 8 years
2 babies - DD (3) and DD (5 months)
OW#1 - PA with classmate for 2 months
OW#2 - Some slut living oversees that needs a green card. EA & PA going on


Posts: 110 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: USA
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So many of us bs have DD's that were confirmed by phone.usage, including myself. There's a reason he's blocking you. It doesn't mess anything up by looking, that's bullshit. It does however mess up someone who's being shady and hiding phone usage.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4881 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
outside4me
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup, still hiding something.

Posts: 218 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Colorado
Dreamland
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry he sounds like he's up to no good!!
Demand he unlock the phone infront of you without warning him so he has no time to clean up


Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2013
justme29
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Default  Posted: 3:22 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really don't need to see the usage. We all know they talk. All looking can do is say how much. And what is too much? Even 1 call or text. I know it is all past that.


Justme
BS - 49
WH -50
Married 30 years.
2 daughters, 1 granddaughter.
D-Day 11-14-11
Why am I still here?

Posts: 40 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Idaho
stillhere09
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Default  Posted: 6:08 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


This is not only evidence of cheating, it is emotional cruelty. It tells you that you, as his wife, will be denied your rights. As his life partner, you have as much a right to see the phone bill - and his phone - as he does. If you give in to this, there will be more and more of your rights taken away until you feel that you are not a wife, not co-owner of the house, etc. Demand your rights, just for the sake of having them.
And take a good look at the online phone bill on a regular basis.
My ex did this. When I finally saw it, I had my evidence, and I copied it.
If he continues to deny you your right, the nanny cam is a great idea!


Me-50 BW
Him-55,STBXWH

Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M


Posts: 3020 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Ohio
BW2639
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Default  Posted: 6:13 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's a selfish bastard that's still hiding something....sorry


married 21 yr
Reconciling

Posts: 174 | Registered: Feb 2012
callmecrazy
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would say he absolutely continued contact, but either way he is not accepting what he has done and trying to earn your trust. There is no reason you should not have access to the account...it is yours too.

Posts: 279 | Registered: Mar 2013
Sadmumma
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1 message (assuming there is no OC) is too much.

And it wasn't you looking at the phone records that caused the problem in the marriage. Only caused him the problem, he got busted.

Sounds like he's up to no good


On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 534 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He claims my looking at his usage caused problems.

The Princess pulled this shit with me. The problem was that I found out she was cheating - the fact that she WAS cheating had nothing to do with anything. This was part of what made me finally realize our reconciliation was a fucking joke. I'm sorry, but I don't believe for a second that your husband has stopped contact.

It sucks that it's up to you to clean things up, but you need to figure out what you're going to do about it. It doesn't sound like he is willing to do anything.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1805 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

justme29,
Are you authorized on the account? And, do you have a keylogger on your computer?


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2210 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
justme29
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is listed as the "account owner". I am just an "account member". Just because he needed to get a new phone before I did, and started the account. I can't even go in and upgrade my phone. He has to give the security code to authorize it.

He doesn't use the online options. The site has been locked since I tried the password too many times 2 years ago. Customer service has to be called (with the security code) to unlock it.


Justme
BS - 49
WH -50
Married 30 years.
2 daughters, 1 granddaughter.
D-Day 11-14-11
Why am I still here?

Posts: 40 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Idaho
4everfaithful83
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, February 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Without sounding too harsh, this is absolutely ridiculous! How did you manage to stay with him when he wouldn't grant you access to his cell phone bill? Have you even seen it once since you found out about the A?

And since your cell phone is on the bill as well...he has full access to what you are doing, calling and texting?? Yeah...that's fair.

You looking at his phone records didn't cause problems, HE DID BY CHEATING!


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
RealityBlows
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Default  Posted: 1:56 AM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is blowing it! I'd tell him Total Transparency or you will walk. He is in no position to be calling the shots.

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