Now he is with control bitch from hell. According to kids she yells, complains, and makes them do things like dry the kitchen sink out with a towel....no water drops allowed, living in a crappy apartment and broke on a six figure salary. And the man that loves dogs, is not allowed to have one. She controls what he eats, how he dresses, and how his hair is cut. Of course, somehow all that is my fault.
Me, I get to live like I want, eat what I want, and keep the sink as wet as I want. I get to enjoy my pets, have fun, and live in our beautiful home with a million dollar view.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
Oh, and eating Manwich out of a can.
Oh my gosh, jemima, this made me laugh so hard My STBXWH will have a similar diet, for sure
No kids (except at weekends to play disney dad), swanky apartment, free to do what he wants on weekdays, spending time with his 10 years younger friends, going out and spending money. But he doesn't look happy...yet he got what he wanted, to be a "single man with no kids, no responsibilities"
Me, I'm living the life i didn't want:
Single mum on benefits with no job and a very tight budget. I'm not pretending I'm happy right now, but I'm starting to see a happy future ahead. i will likely always be income poor now, but that's because i want to work part-time, to be family time rich.
What IS funny though...The Arse always wanted to save up and take a year off to travel round the world. The idea was that we'd save up and rent out the house in a few years time. well, now with visitation etc, he won't be able to go until the children are grown, which will be in 14 years time. Of course he can still travel at that age, but it won't be the same as he wanted. Mind you, it would be in time for his next MLC, I suppose
He also has $$$ of debt on credit cards, but he's in denial about that. That doesn't touch his reality.
[This message edited by Softcentre at 12:55 PM, February 19th, 2014 (Wednesday)]
As for everything else, something my daughter said stuck out. She's 3 years old, she has autism but is verbal. She said, out of the blue: "my daddy not happy any more". Serves him right.
My ex used to say that I was controlling and never let him do anything/go anywhere. NOT TRUE AT ALL. He could do whatever he wanted - I never stopped him. I would express my displeasure if he made a decision I didn't agree with, but I still let him do it. Apparently at OW's, he didn't even have a key to the house. If he wanted to go out and do something, and she didn't approve, she would pick a fight. If he went anyway - she would lock the doors and he wouldn't be able to get back in when he got home and he'd haven't sleep in his car that night.
He said I expected him to do too much around the house. I did ask him to do household chores since I worked full-time and he either was unemployed or worked part-time. Most of the time, I'd ask him to do stuff and he wouldn't do it right away and I'd get tired of waiting and do it myself anyway. Apparently OW expected him to be her butler... if he didn't do all the laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, etc...she would kick him out for a few days.
And on and on and on... apparently it got even worse after OC was born, because she would use threaten him that if he didn't do xyz, he couldn't stay there and wouldn't be able to see OC. So he was at her mercy.
My ex HATED authority. Hated being told what to do. And OW just had him by the balls. I am actually surprised that he actually made it about 2 years with her before she kicked him out for good.
I also finally saw that I was the one who was caged and was in desperate need of that freedom. It was simply no way to live - I just existed. It bends my brain that he's still living that fucked-up life.
I'm not a fan of the rest of it but this one line gets me every single time - from the Rhianna song "Stay".
"Funny you're the broken one but I'm the only one who needed saving".
Sounds like the only Dead he is following is his own dead hollow soul.
Livin' the life!
I don't think the Karma bus is going to come around, he seems to live a charmed life.
I am just enjoying my life, my freedom and the time I have to pursue the things I enjoy. He is chained to his job, his house, buying his cars, trying to impress everyone around him. The OW enjoys spending his money.
So glad that I am not a part of that charade anymore.
I am hoping that when we are done with mediation and he has to write me that check, it hurts just a little!!!