XWH calls me. Says son is still on ice. I say, yeah, and you aren't, because?? Well, he blew out his knee and needs to go to the hospital. They are playing in my town, hospital is in my town, sounds simple, right? Ummm, nope.
XWH in all his wisdom bought a standard car, not automatic. Saved him from insuring DS on his car, and he doesn't help me pay for the insurance on mine for DS. Problem is, DS can't drive standard. I can't drive standard. So now, he's at the rink, he can't drive, DS can't drive. So, someone dropped XWH off at the hospital, then they brought DS home in XWH's car. They leave XWH's car in my driveway, and DS drives the guy back to the rink in my car so the guy can get his own car. Now DS is going to come home and wait for his dad to call to say he's done, then DS is going to take my car over to the hospital, get XWH, and drive him to his home in another town about 25 min away. So, I guess I'm stuck with his car in my driveway for a few days.
Did you follow that? I'm glad if you did...because I'm still not sure what the heck just happened/is happening.
**edited to try and clarify **
[This message edited by devistatedmom at 9:12 PM, February 18th (Tuesday)]
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
I followed it. I may vote for C - a little nuts AND the nicest XW ever.
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
NIK, I'll take C too.
But you don't need to know how to drive stick to pop it in neutral and let it roll into the street if he leaves it there too long.
"Hey mom?" (with a big smile on her face) "If dad is hurt and can't drive, does that mean I don't have to go to for dinner with him tomorrow?"
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.
It's crazy that he didn't call someone besides YOU to help him deal! Not sure why he didn't have you pick your son up and handle the rest himself. You get bonus points for not telling him that.
Let's see if your WH reciprocates appropriately and somehow compensates you for your trouble.
I like the way your DD thinks!
[This message edited by nekorb at 7:31 AM, February 19th (Wednesday)]
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.
Yes, DS got home at about 1am. We are dragging our butts a bit today. Can't imagine why.
XWH called this morning to say thank you, and that he may need my son to run around picking up prescriptions for him, groceries, etc. Ummm...yeah. In my car, in a town 25 min away....I didn't comment.
He's on crutches, needs to see another doctor to get an MRI. He's torn something. Poor baby.
Give me a break.
At least he called to say thank you.
he may need my son to run around picking up prescriptions for him, groceries, etc.
I know your son is going to want to help his father, but there should be a discussion about reimbursing your gas expense (let alone the wear and tear on your car). The one time drop off/pick up/car switcheroo is one thing, but this ongoing "help" out of your pocket? Uhhhh no.
Gaby, he broke up with OW long ago. He had a new GF within 2 weeks, and he has been with her for a few years now. She doesn't live around here, she lives an hour away in another town. So, we are the closest "family/friends" he has to where he lives.
We will see. If I need my car when he wants stuff done, it won't be happening. One step at a time.
I would have told that guy to leave XH's car at the rink and just drop DS off at your house.
DD came upstairs:
"Dad phoned. He wanted to say hi because it was weird not seeing me on a Thursday. He saw (family doctor) today, and his ripped some important part of his knee. He told me what it was called, but I didn't care, so I don't remember. He said if the car is bugging you, then ask one of the neighbours to move it."
I just looked at her. I said, DD! That's not nice! He's your dad! She said, but moooommmm, I really don't care what part of his knee he hurt. It's his own fault for pretending he could play hockey!
She did say his brother is there helping him. I said, did he not say anything about getting the car? She said he might. I said, oh...that means XBIL will be coming here. <pause> Would it be ok with you if I go out when they are coming? DD laughed. No mom. I don't blame you for not wanting to see him either.
The funniest part of all this is she is REALLY daddy's little girl, to this day. It shocked me to hear her talking like that about his injury.
I will wait and see if he texts me tomorrow about the car. If I don't hear from him, I will text and ask what the plan is.