The wife and I are going through the Reconciliation process.
My unique experience and question is this:
Because of my situation which was an affair that led to the pregnancy of the other woman, the wife and I are working through the NC. Initially we did the no texting, only phone calls related to child and/or emails to our shared email if it was about the baby. As my wife and I couldn't have anymore than one child are situation is more complex.
I sent an email to the OW inquiring about supplies as we approach the birth and she responded by texting a couple of small things. I showed my wife because it was a text. My wife responded by sending the OW a text saying that all texts should be sent to her and she will relay them to me.
I have read that working through a mediator is a good idea. And I have read that sometimes this works. I want to support our marriage but I am not sure if wife should be the relay person. The OW hasn't sent any texts or emails about feelings or our past but only about the pregnancy. I have no issue in keeping the NC to very limited contact as a child is involved, we all want to be at least cordial. How can I convey my ideas without making it seem like I want contact with OW when that isn't the case, nor do I want to invalidate how my wife feels...