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User Topic: saying goodbye to my butts
Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have decided that it is finally time to quit smoking cigarettes....I quit for 9 months when I was pregnant with my daughter and was able to quit cold turkey then, so I am going to do it again....for real this time.

I figure there are so many other things about myself that I am trying to change and improve right now, I might as well add one more thing to the list


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

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Blobette
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you! Quitting smoking was one of the things my WH did to show me how hard he was working to change. I HATE the smell of it - I find it profoundly un-sexy. It's a big step in the right direction!

WH did it with the e-cigs. Now we're trying to wean him off those, too...


BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

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NoGoodUsername
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck. That's a difficult and brave thing you are doing.


Me: WH
Her: BW
Dday 7/11/13
"May you be protected from hearts that are not humble, tongues that are not wise and eyes that have forgotten how to cry."

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AML04
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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck Alyssa!! I also quit about a month before getting preg with DD 9/2011) but started again a week after dday (6/2013).

I remember how proud I was of myself then. I'm hoping to quit before we hit a year but if I can't that is my limit. I can't do this anymore as it's just making me feel guilty.

Wish you the best!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 831 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are several other SIers who are quitting or recently quit. Many of them post in Off Topic, so that may be a place of support for you, too.

Good luck! Sending you strength.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Joanh
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck, I am into my second go again since Christmas, a little better this time. Its hard cause my BH needs to smoke on his drive home so when he's here for the 24 hours we end up smoking. And I do at my girlfriends too. Its so hard. Wish you luck!


BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

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HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck...


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

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Hosea
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Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If only more Waywards would give up their love of butts, we could put an end to this whole sad Affair Recovery business!


John 8:10-11: "Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Did they not condemn you?”

“No, Lord,” she said.

And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”


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mrs7
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Content  Posted: 12:23 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel the same way about adding one more thing to the list.

There's no better time than right now.

[This message edited by mrs7 at 12:25 AM, February 20th (Thursday)]


Me -WW - 49
Him -BH -45
DD - 1-21-14
no children together
M - 3 1/2 years, together 7

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Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 4:49 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Nik

Can I ask for it to be moved?


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm going to move this to OT.

Reminder that OT is an infidelity-free forum .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck.

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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I went cold turkey last April. It wasn't a whole lot of fun but I did it and I haven't had a single cigarette since then. A few things taht helped: I calculated the savings and taped it to my computer monitor at work. That provided powerful motivation. I will have saved approximately $2185 by April 15. I also ate a ton of little carrot sticks. It was mainly willpower and the determination to be stronger than my addiction, though.

You can do it!


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Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did the math last night and I will save $3,400 a year....That's a whole lot of money.

I just smoked my last one at 4:00 so now I am done..I am also going to try it cold turkey....I did buy mentos though!!


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great, Alyssa. You can do it!

My SO quit years ago and he has an automatic transfer between his checking and savings for the amount he would have spent if he was still smoking (I think it's $6.30 a day). He's bought furniture for his house, a camper and paid for vacations just with that money. It adds up quick!


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Actionsoverwords
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck and don't give up! I smoked from age 12 to 26. Tried to stop a number of times before finally kicking the habit 6 years ago. It was difficult, but I don't regret it at all. You can do it!


Me: WH, 30's
Her : BW, 30's, (determinata)
Children: An amazing son.
I am a sex addict, working on myself, and facing the wreckage of my actions.



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