"Knowing is half the battle"
Expecting progress not perfection
Anyone who calls themselves Christian- yet stands in judgment of your contrite husband's past sins- needs to drop their stones and hit their knees in prayer. Everyone in church needs forgiveness for something-- and many of them are no doubt committing sexual sins in their private lives.
It takes so much courage to forgive an affair-- but it makes my eyes tear up picturing the kind of courage it would take for your repentent husband to stand beside you and be named as a former adulterer. What a selfless statement that would be-- honoring you at the expense of his own reputation. What a transformation -- a Wayward who once treated his spouse like garbage now standing beside her, ready to bear the trashing of his own name so that he can honor his Betrayed and her priceless gift of forgiveness.
I hope so very much that there are secret waywards in that room hearing your testimony of grace and seeing your husband's courage. What a breathtaking testimony to redemption and selfless love that would be!!!
Please keep us posted!!! And if anyone there judges your husband, kick their hypocritical asses IN JESUS' NAME!
“No, Lord,” she said.
And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”
Proud of you!
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA/then PA
In MC & Reconciling
I edit, therefore I am.
Hosea - we are one of at least 3 couples in our specific class who have been effected by infidelity and probably the least judgmental class out of the adult classes in our church. I just know that owning up to your bad decisions in the privacy of your own home/marriage is totally different from sharing them with a room full of people - even trusted people.
BG - I'd rather not do it without him there, but I will if I have to. It's pretty much a guarantee that my story will take up the entire hour allotted for Sunday morning Bible study, so it is very likely that our leader won't have anything else planned. It would be terribly unfair to spring that on him as late as 6am on Sunday should my H be called out. We could wait for a Sunday when he could be there, but it could be next week or next year before that happens again. If he hadn't just taken time off, he'd ask, and if I put it off, I won't do it. Lol
From one Christian Betrayed Spouse to another, I am SO proud of both you and your husband for having the courage to share your reconciliation story at your church.
I know it must've been difficult for you both, but the testimony of forgiveness and redemption in a situation that once must've seemed so hopeless is the heart of the Gospel. It means so much when people in the church have a chance to see it at work in their own midst.
God bless you both, and I pray that your marriage grows ever closer and ever brighter in the years ahead.
Oh Hosea this is so true!
Anyone who calls themselves Christian- yet stands in judgment of your contrite husband's past sins- needs to drop their stones and hit their knees in prayer.
Married for over 14 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school