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justme29
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How would your SO answer?

What do you like about me?

Mine: "I like your company, except it's boring."


Justme
BS - 49
WH -50
Married 30 years.
2 daughters, 1 granddaughter.
D-Day 11-14-11
Why am I still here?

Posts: 41 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Idaho
CantLoseHope
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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, February 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

right now...... I am drawing a complete blank
Funny thing is I opened up the respond window thinking I had a response..... and now realizing I don't.....
Where I am at in all of this I am not sure I can answer this in truth right now... becuase I truly don't know anymore.


"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"


Posts: 172 | Registered: Feb 2014
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 1:12 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are you asking how our ws would answer the question given by bs..what do you like about me?

If that's the question, its interesting that not so long ago I asked him this question. He was squirming around, so uncomfortable..he shrugged and said, idk. Again I asked, this time he said, your weird, what do you mean? 3rd times a charm, when I said, you've known me for 30 fucking years, just tell me one thing....drum roll...uhnnm your a really good cook. All the guys are jealous at work when they see my lunches. Awww true love


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5039 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 4:07 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((justme29)))

That stings and smarts. I hope this was a response whilst he was 'head up arse', or more genteely put - foggy.

If not, wow, what are you going to decide? Can you live with that opinion that your WH has of you?

No rush to make a decision, its all about you now and what you need.

((Extra hugs))


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 729 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
TangoCharlie
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your wallet.

Posts: 1 | Registered: Feb 2014
TheBestMe
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Default  Posted: 6:22 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He'd probably answer: That you don't want to go to prison for killing them"...


ME Doing Better
WH Trying As Best He Can
Married 23 years
Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
D Day #2 - 2010 His D told me
D Day #3 - 1/11/2013 OW Confirmed
LTA 7 years

Both feet pointed forward; positive


Posts: 429 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Inner Peace
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have asked this. He said something along the lines of "You're very smart, easy to talk to, compassionate, fun to be around, like all the same things I do, and you're beautiful."

The sad part is once upon a time I had a list similar to that for him....it has changed now. Now when I ask myself what I like about him...I often draw a blank. I once thought the world of him, now I see all the ugly.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
million tears
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My situation is just like yours, C1131716.


2 year LTA-double betrayal, D-day 1-26-2009 and many months of TT. 2 more recent d-days-way overstepped boundaries.

Married 27 years. Together 29.

3 children 24, 21, 14

OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC.


Posts: 1664 | Registered: Jun 2009
mainlyinpain
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine too, started with he likes how smart I am and that we like to do the same things, that he likes spending time with me, that I have a good heart...
I asked myself right now about him and the best I can come up with truthfully is I like his penis.
God, I've derailed.


DD 1 - 7/7/2004
DD 2 - 10/31/2011
DD 3 - 4/30/2013(or continuation?)(Yes)
DD 4 - 9/25/2013
DD 5 - 2/15/2014 (found phone from 2009)

Posts: 489 | Registered: Apr 2013
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I asked myself right now about him and the best I can come up with truthfully is I like his penis.

The good news is all men have one so that is easily replaceable!


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
justme29
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ostrich80. That was exactly how it went. I asked several times. Like "you can't think of 1 thing you like about me, why are we together" Then he came up with that. I took it like if I wasn't boring he would like my company. So there is still not a thing he likes about me.

This was some time ago but I don't know any different now. He does say he likes me. I didn't get any better answer at a time I believe we were happy.

When I was pregnant with my oldest, she's 21, the question was asked at prenatal classes. The group was in a circle and we were first on the one side so we were asked first. "What would you like your baby to get from your spouse?" So he was put on the spot and couldn't think of anything. We went around the room and everyone had something. Came back to him and nope still nothing. And that was when I believed he did love me.

Me I've always had a list of what I like about him. Always up on the list was that he made friends and he kept them. Now that is bothering me. He said she was "just a friend".


Justme
BS - 49
WH -50
Married 30 years.
2 daughters, 1 granddaughter.
D-Day 11-14-11
Why am I still here?

Posts: 41 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Idaho
beautytoashes5
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Sad  Posted: 2:43 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Even if my WH answered it, I would not believe him. He's a liar.

Posts: 91 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Southern California
norabird
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((justme29))))

What an awful thing to hear.

He likes having you as his victim more than anything else I am afraid.

Please, please, know you are so much more than that. He is putting you down so your self-worth isn't strong enough to leave. It is classic manipulative emotional abuse.

[This message edited by norabird at 2:45 PM, February 21st (Friday)]


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4165 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
NikkiD
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He said he likes that I am loyal, that if i say I dont like you I mean it, but dont have to be disrespectful to the person (indifferent). He said I make him happy, that I am a powerful partner, I fill in his blanks, know alot about sports, am a good mom and a good cook.

Meanwhile...OW well, is a drama filled dumsel in distress, but this is where your "heart" is..
Boy bye....

Sad, I draw a blank about what I like about him too.


"Spoil me with Loyalty; I can finance myself...."
ME: BS-33
HE: WS-32
Married 3 years, known 20
2 kids
D-Day #1 12/30/12
False Recovery
D-Day #2 1/21/14
LTA 5 years-ish
Riding the "Struggle Bus"
Living apart....

Posts: 668 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Midwest
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My answer was Chocolate, but since I read the remaining portion of the question, it's changed.

I think my STBX could not find one thing to like about me right now. Since I am D'ing his ass he's the victim (poor, poor pitiful cheating liar!) in all this.

Ironically the one thing that I would have said I liked about him prior to D-day was his honesty. Now I know he's a damn good actor!

ETA: Ask him if he thinks boring is a good thing. Some people think of boring as so not the drama ... just a thought.

[This message edited by BAB61 at 3:57 PM, February 21st (Friday)]


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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