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User Topic: Today is the day!
WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This afternoon is the final hearing for the dissolution (or disillusion as some of my friends who have been through the process call is; they're cards, I tell you). STBX and I will travel there together--yeah, it's like that for us. Lawyer yesterday said it shouldn't take more than 30 minutes, if that. I am certain this is what I want, but it is astounding to me how totally sad I am. We had a great relationship for 17 years (together for 20). The past 18 months have been horrible but also amazing. Every decision I have made since deciding to leave has been supported by friends, work, and out-of-the-blue turns of events at which I would roll my eyes if that shit happened in a Hallmark movie. Anyway, I'd like as many good vibes as possible today. Just because it's right doesn't mean it's not going to suck.


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 607 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you everything I've got, honey. ((((WB))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25726 | Registered: Aug 2011
mamazen
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Member # 42137
Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally get you.

Will be with you in spirit today.

Give us an update when it's done....


mamazen


me 56
WH 57
married 19 years
separated since 8/2013
D FINAL! Sept 10 2014
D-day Dec 21 2013 (after separation)
2 sons 15 and 12
OW = family friend and WH work colleague, going on many years (I was clueless)


Posts: 73 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: canada
iamsoblind42
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so jealous! I still have 2 months. I will have been M for just over 18 years when it is final and I am sure I will be sad over the loss of what could have been but I will surely not mourn what it actually was. I have a bottle of champagne chilling waiting for April 21st.

I wish you much strength and that there is no drama in the courtroom today. Sending good vibes and I hope it does not suck too bad.


I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, keep on surviving...

BS: me 42
WH: 48
2 kids
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Divorced 4/21/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched


Posts: 209 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Colorado
norabird
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course you're sad. That's okay and normal. I hope and expect you will find some peace after it's final. Some Hallmark level peace!


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Lola7
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you happy thoughts and love. Let us know how it goes. :)


caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"
DIVORCED!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Nov 2013
Darcy3
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, February 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending good vibes and lots of (((WB))).


Me = BS
Him = WS
3 teenagers
Married 24 years
D-Day: Nov. 10, 2012
Divorced

Posts: 45 | Registered: Jun 2013
WeepingBuddhist
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Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's done! I'm OUT! FREEEEE!

XWH (whoa, that feels GOOOOOD to type) freaked right the fuck out when I told him that next week I am moving and renting out the, wait, no...MY house. I'll be heading out of state to help care for my elderly mother for the next few years.

Thanks for all the good vibes and well wishes!!!!


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 607 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
dmari
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!!! FrEeDoM!!!


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2270 | Registered: Oct 2012
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 5982 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations and (((hugs)))


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


Posts: 752 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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