Thanks...wow, that was embarassing!
[This message edited by InnerLight at 9:31 AM, February 20th (Thursday)]
[This message edited by TrulyReconciled at 9:32 AM, February 20th (Thursday)]
When I had my hysterectomy last year, I was thinking maybe I would not be able to anymore since I believed all O's were connected with contractions of the uterus/cervix. Now that I don't have either of these - I know that all types are not based in those regions because everything still 'works'.
I would guess what you are experiencing is both O's just coming from different stimulation (g-spot vs clitoris, etc).
Am I just better at making me orgasm than past partners?
Now here's the trick. Your partner needs to make sure you O at least one time prior to intercourse, this kind of primes the engine so to speak, and will allow you have a better O from intercourse, in addition, trying different positions so he can get deeper, and an angle that is going to hit that g spot. If he isn't hitting it then O's are not nearly as intense.
If youre not too embarrassed and really want to improve things then go to an adult store, and get a few toys, one that is designed to hit the magically, always elusive gspot, and the vibrators for clitoral stim help too. Using these while having intercourse will take your O to a new level.
I am a firm believer in good sex, makes you want more sex, and the more sex you have the better it gets. When you start to experience these great O's then you want to do it more, and your partner wants to please you more, and well it becomes a not so vicious circle.
Most of all try to make if fun.
If he isn't hitting it then O's are not nearly as intense.
I didn't know that ...
[This message edited by TrulyReconciled at 1:26 PM, February 20th (Thursday)]
And 5 years out still going at it like a couple of kids.....
Maybe it's the fact that I didn't really love the people I slept with when we started sleeping together. My best experience sexually was with my first love, who I loved so very much...no orgasm but I still consider it the best because there was love before there was sex.
Oh well, at least I know how to make me happy!
If oral vs penatrive vs anything Else is at the same level for you it's time to quit focusing on love and intamacy and start focusing on screwing for good Os. Make it a challenge ands get a vibe and some lube and a gspot toy and have at it.
I used to enjoy it but never really craved it and certainly didn't get how awesome it could be until I let loose and focused on myself.
IMHO your post is all about your MIND as a sensual and sexual catalyst and/or inhibitor. Why are you so comfortable solo? And so uninterested with partners?
Fear, trust, inhibitions, shame, guilt?
I really have no idea about YOU, but your mind is where you might start.