Now it's another chapter in my life it's difficult to face. Where do I fit in ? Y do ppl choose to hurt me? Is it me? Y can't i b ok w my decision and move on? Any advice would b much appreciated !!!
If your DD is only 6 now, somewhere in the past 6 years you D her dad, and then met this new man, and moved in with him.
It sounds like you got the D done, then wanted the "dream" of immediately finding the perfect mate, and just get on with it. What you got instead was a toad.
I'm a firm believer (now) that broken attracts broken. It sounds like you didn't take the time to really look at yourself, and spend time working on what makes you happy WITHOUT a man in it.
I don't think you are permanently broken or doomed or whatever. I think right now you should just work on making yourself and DD happy with just the two of you. It does not mean you have to forget men forever, but you need to be happy and confident yourself to attract a happy healthy man for a relationship.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
There are no guarantees but you can come closer.
Focus on you and your child. Be ok with being alone and meet friends romantic and nonromantic and enjoy yourself. With time you might meet someone but give it time.
Be grateful for your strength and use it to propel you to a better place.
Y do ppl choose to hurt me? Is it me? Y can't i b ok w my decision and move on? Any advice would b much appreciated !!!
[This message edited by StillLivin at 11:52 AM, February 24th (Monday)]