OMG, I am so envious.
WH makes a third of what I make, just like your situation. He had the affair, just like your situation. Wish he had the balls to just walk away. I'd have some respect for him if he did that. But no, in the last few years, he has liquidated his pension (he's getting mine you know), has stolen $90K from our credit margin from under my nose (yep, I'm technically responsible with him for that debt), he made me pay for his move and security deposit (a 2K/month high-rise no less), or else he wasn't going to move. Already demanding CS (since the credit margin is now frozen), has not contributed any portion to the kids' tuition yet, and I am paying all the mortgages and household expenses. (Having a pity party here, sorry!)
You effing ROCK. It was swift and brilliant. I really really appreciate the art of what you did. Congratulations.
I am thinking though, it would hurt a bit to know she wanted out so badly that she would sacrifice all that just to get out....you also have my compassion. mamazen
married 19 years
separated since 8/2013
D in progress
D-day Dec 21 2013 (after separation)
2 sons 15 and 11
OW = family friend and WH work colleague, going on many years (I was clueless)