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luvbug0915 (original poster member #22934) posted at 5:21 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
I've been MIA on SI recently because I've been struggling with my break from XSO back in November. This has been the hardest breakup I've ever experienced and I've just been no good to anyone, even myself.
I decided I needed some quality time with my close girlfriend so came to Florida for the week. I had a wonderful time and feel like a lot of healing has taken place. But right now I'm waiting at the airport in Tampa, flying home from vacation a day early because DD needs me.
I got a call from her H on Thursday, she had a seizure and had seemingly lost all memory since her last seizure 22 months ago (caused by hormones from her IUD). She was very upset seeing her now 2 yr old child and was very confused by all the changes in her home. She slept most of the day but had some periods of wakefulness in which her memories were very sporadic but she was piecing things back together. She had another seizure last night and when she woke she didn't recognize her H, her home, her dogs...nothing. He took her to ER and called me on the way, she sobbed "mommy, I'm scared, who's going to take care of me?". I calmly told her that her H loved her very much and he would take care of her and I would be there ASAP.
She had another seizure in the ER, which expedited them through the 3 hour wait time. They gave her anticonvulsants and sent her home with instructions to follow up with neurologist.
She is 14 weeks pregnant, her H has been researching and thinks the seizures are hormone related. He seems to be holding it together pretty well and I know I can't do anything for her but I have to be there to hold her and calm her fears. She may be 29 but she's still my baby.
So, prayers and mojo are much appreciated.
"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 5:42 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
((((luvbug & DD))))
Sending strength and healing thoughts your way. This is a lot to deal with.
((((luvbug & DD))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 6:12 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
((((luvbug and DD))))
Sending prayers, mojo, and hope.
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 7:18 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
Sending all my prayers for healing!!!
Seizures are truly scary!
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Dreamboat ( member #10506) posted at 7:44 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
(((((luvbug)))))))
She has already been thru so much, and now this??!!
Try to stay calm. You will be home in a few hours and then you will be able to hold her hand and make her feel safe.
Sending major prayers and mojo your way
And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 7:55 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
(((luv and DD)))
Sending prayers
mysticpenguin ( member #38839) posted at 2:52 AM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
Omg - I'm so sorry, I can only imagine how scary this is! (((((Hugs))))) I hope the docs have answers soon!
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 3:26 AM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
Sending prayers and mojo for you and DD.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 3:39 AM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
Scary. Sending you all good thoughts
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
luvbug0915 (original poster member #22934) posted at 5:24 AM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
I went straight to my daughter from the airport, spent all evening helping her piece the last 8 or 9 yrs of her life together. She is very lucid and you would never know anything was wrong with her except for the missing memories.
I got back to my apartment at about 10pm after being gone sine the 15th and my apartment was broken into. I'm at my mom's for the night. I'm a wreck, I don't know how much more I can take.
"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle
really trying ( member #5311) posted at 6:06 AM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
(((LUVBUG)))
I'm so sorry.
Me: late 40's
XH: A parasite and that might be a compliment
My S-23, Our D-15
Married 5/93 D-Day: 11/18/03
Divorced 5/19/08
The future's so bright - I got to wear shades
Plant Seeds of Kindness
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 4:58 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
How terrifying. Sending prayers for your whole family.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 6:11 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
((((luvbug & DD)))) Sending healing energy for you both....
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:38 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
How scary! I hope your DD is quickly on the mend, luvbug. Sending strength to you, your DD, and SIL.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 8:18 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
wow ... lots on your plate .. many prayers and much mojo ... (((luvbug0915)))
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
roseguide ( member #35697) posted at 12:31 AM on Monday, February 24th, 2014
((((((luvbug0915)))))) Prayers
In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of the things not meant for you. – Buddhist saying
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:41 AM on Monday, February 24th, 2014
((((and mojo, an strength))))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 7:35 PM on Monday, February 24th, 2014
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 7:53 PM on Monday, February 24th, 2014
(( luvbug family ))
so scary. lots of good thoughts for you all!
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
sadcat ( member #8637) posted at 12:12 PM on Tuesday, February 25th, 2014
((((luvbug)))) Sending healing and peaceful thoughts to you and your family.
Never let your fear decide your fate.....AWOLNATION
If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.
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