My BW and I are thinking about telling her parents. I am scared to death of the changes that will bring. We see them frequently because they love just 2 blocks away. We rent from them. Her dad will likely freeze me out and only speak to me when necessary. Her mom...I have no idea. She never got to know her father because he cheated on her mom, and her mom wouldn't let her see him. I have no idea what to expect. Will they support us? What complications will it add? I don't know.
I know I won't feel welcome. I know I will want to avoid having to see them. I know they will never respect me again like they do today. I feel confident that I can reconcile with my wife. With her family? I just don't know.
It is depressing to think that if and when I confess to them, the only place I can go where I am respected will be work. But I did this to myself, so can I really complain?