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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. I had a similar experience (minus the blowout) when I was 23 - blew .08 a few DAYS after the limit was changed from .1 to .08. Not that that's an excuse but still. It straightened me out FAST. It's a long story but the charges ended up being dropped. I hope you have a similar experience, I'm sorry this happened and glad you're ok, a blowout and hitting the rail could have happened to anyone and it could have been so much worse.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6735 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh Waiting is the hardest part. In anything!!!!

Please know that we got your back. Just like we had others backs, even if we know you made a mistake.

Deep Breaths, Like Grma said....This too shall pass, tomorrow is another day, and if aint we dont' need it.

Grma was a wise wise German lady.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8506 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you again. I don't want to appear petulant. I'm very stressed. Even though nothing happened yesterday (which is actually great because I'll have an unencumbered license for another two weeks at least), I cried all the way back to work, then had to make it look like nothing was wrong. I haven't told anyone here yet, not even about the accident. I haven't even told my friends yet because I don't think I can do so without crying yet.

DS knows I called him first thing in the morning. He's loving and supportive as always. I called the X too he's retired LEO but really no help in that regard because he's been retired so long (legal limit was .15 when he was active duty.) However, he's still feeling guilty and has been promising me some money to help with the funds I gave DS & DDIL before I lost the job that I moved for. I could use it to pay the legal bill, and he's already made an initial deposit in my bank account. It was also another opportunity to talk about the QDRO.

My baby brother is coming here tomorrow completely unrelated. He has to get his department's radar guns calibrated at the State Police Academy, so we're going to meet and have lunch. Then I leave to meet my new grandson on Satuday morning. A week of new baby smell should buoy my spirits.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20168 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Everything is suspended in time when you're cuddling and snuggling a baby.

Breathe deep when you feel your body starting to stress. This event doesn't define you, please remember that.

More hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5081 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
5454real
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The DA didn't show up. I have to go back in two weeks.

Why didn't your lawyer ask for an immediate dismissal? Sounds like it should have been a default judgment in your favor. You showed up, he didn't. Am I missing something?


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2839 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was just the arraignment, 5454.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20168 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sad,
Do you remember what you said to me when my mom was in an accident, totaled her car and got a OWI? It wasn't very nice but I do want to say this to you..
I am so HAPPY you are okay and I know what it is like to have a few drinks and drive home.

Please don't be scared. Everything will be okay. It was for my mom. She had to pay at least 5000.00 in fines, take a course or do a weekend in jail. She was restricted to drive for 6 months. She just got her lic. back and has to have SSR insurance.

Please know that it happens to ppl who are great people (which I think you are). I feel horrible for you but your lawyer should be able to go to court for you on most of this and you should only have to appear once. At least that is how it was for my mom.

I am here for you if you need anything and you are not alone.

Enjoy that new baby. everything will be okay.
.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crap.

Sending Mojo.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2839 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
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