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User Topic: pep talk to myself
Leia
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Default  Posted: 5:16 AM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a writer. No, I'm not published and I do not make money from my writing. Repeated attempts to get the rat bastard to email me--both verbally and in writing--have gone unanswered. But I can sit at a computer and compose. I have a political science degree. Which means I can read, write and think. Which also means that I can be a "spin doctor." So, at this early hour when I should be asleep, it hit me--I know how to spin this divorce in my favor. There is a track record of emails with my attorney. There is evidence in writing of his ass-hole behavior. There is evidence of him cleaning out the bank account. But now, I'm going to play to my strengths and that of composition. I know how to do it. And I'm going to play to my strengths because I'm going to get what I want out of this divorce. Ok. Pep talk to myself done. Time to go write a rough draft--because that's what you do when you're a writer.


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 5:21 AM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Often at the most unexpected times we find strength and get motivated. I am up for different reasons ( constant nightmares) but I am glad you are feeling this and taking action. Utilizing the skills you possess and fighting for yourself. I wish you all the best. Stay strong


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 630 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
myowndystopia
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Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You go girl! Use your strengths and go for it!


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
stronggirl72
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's right, Leia!!

I also enjoy writing, so we both know that the best ideas come at the most inconvenient times. Go for it!!

Love the pep talk.


"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."

DIVORCED!!


Posts: 154 | Registered: Oct 2012
dmari
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GO FOR IT!! I'm loving the way you can look at your situation with a different "lens" and use your strengths to go get what you are entitled to!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2146 | Registered: Oct 2012
LoveHerStill
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Member # 31504
Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

May the Force be with you!


Me BH-45
Her WW-44
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.


Posts: 462 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Seattle, WA
Jduff
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's another pot of hot coffee/tea for you! I hope the writing is going well!


Divorced - 5/23/14
Already in my New Beginning - :)

Posts: 445 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: texas
scarednbroken
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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You go girl!!! Girl power!!


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
persevere
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love it when a plan starts to come together! You go Leia! Can't wait to hear the update!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4470 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There she is!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9529 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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