I thank god for her, and I empathize with her, and she with me. She and her girlfriend (the OW) were new mutual friends of my husband and I.
She discovered the affair...and outed them right away. I had found texting on the phone bill, and H talked me out of my suspicions. I found further evidence of contact on his phone, and again he talked me out of it. I wish I had the guts that the OBS did!
We met DDay to pool our "info" and make sure we both got the WHOLE story. We kept in contact for awhile. First because we agreed we would share any info/suspicions/etc, and also because it was nice to talk to someone who new EXACTLY how you felt.
I am feeling tremendous guilt right. I found out this week that her girlfriend has had at least one other affair during their relationship. I know she has no idea. I want to tell her, but I found out in a very bizarre manner from our pastor, and while I don't know any details about her other AP, I don't know if confidentiality is expected from the pastor or not (I emailed him) and if he says he expects me to keep it to myself I'm going to feel horrible. We both agreed that we would not put up with even one more thing...nothing...and I will feel like such a betrayer knowing this and not telling her.