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User Topic: Spring cleaning my life
nowiknow23
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Cool  Posted: 12:06 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in a rut, people. An honest to goodness chin-deep rut. Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, blue, and sluggish. The weather isn't helping, but this goes deeper than a seasonal thing. I've gotten my self stuck in a place where I'm doing the bare minimum and not caring for myself OR any of my business as I should be. And this weekend I realized that I'm sick of it. Time to kick my own ass!

Spring cleaning is underway!

So I polished up three cornerstones of self-care over the weekend:
- Back to daily exercising
- Back to being mindful of what I'm eating
- Back to a regular sleep schedule

And then I made a list of all the obligatory crap I've been avoiding - housekeeping tasks, scheduling doctor's appointments, nagging work-related stuff, tax and financial paperwork, recycling, etc. I'm forcing myself to check at least one item off the "albatross" list each day. It's such a relief when I do even one small thing and see the list shrink a bit.

Anyone want to join me? We can cheer each other on.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, I so need this, Empress... I've been in the same rut. (Obviously, if I'm contemplating an out-of-state move. )

We can kick each other!


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15360 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
hexed
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in!

- Tidy up/Keep up my e-mails
- Daily exercise
- Catch up/Organize finances
- Quit diet soda!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8407 | Registered: Apr 2008
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you Nik! You are an inspiration!
Let's see:

Eat healthy even if it means giving up spaghetti for breakfast

Clean up piles of paperwork

Clean out closet


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1586 | Registered: Mar 2004
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go Everyone!!!!!


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51506 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NIK I am sooo with you in that chin-deep rut.
H was unemployed for a year and a half and I was basically in survival mode.
Thankfully he's working now, but I'm still stuck in the same mental spot and a never-ending fear cycle of what if scenarios.

I have seriously let go of a lot of things I enjoy and I need to take myself to task and get a handle on things before I end up on meds.

So....for my personal spring cleaning:
-Back to eating healthy
-Back to exercising regularly (5-6x each week)
-Get my house in order (literally...I need to do household spring cleaning)
-Let go of H's issues. He's an adult and needs to handle his own challenges. I am not his mother, nor do I wish to be his keeper.


Me - 42
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
5 Furkids (3 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 6073 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You just inspired me to call my doc and make an appt for a long overdue physical. Thank you.

I moved a year ago and had not found a new dentist or eye doctor, and I finally buckle down and do those two things in February, but the regular doc was the last holdout. Thanks for the nudge!!!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2568 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need to do this too. Thanks, NIK!

I could be doing so much more with my time and get lots of things accomplished. I have many goals, but I'm not on track to complete any of my goals. I'll need some time to formulate a plan, but seeing others taking charge of their own lives definitely motivates me to take more charge of my life!!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4131 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You guys! You have no idea how much comfort I draw from the fact that I'm not alone. NOT that I'm happy you're all in the same place.

Yay us!!!


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

May I join?
I have been in such a rut, it is not funny.

I started the list in January, did great for a week...
Now I feel too guilty to look at the list again. Shameful


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6423 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No. Shame. Allowed. We get a fresh slate each and every day and we celebrate every victory, regardless of size.

Today I cleaned out my fridge. Woot!


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24435 | Registered: Aug 2011
persevere
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my goodness empress, how is it that you always put these support threads together when I need it? You helped me get my house ready to sell two years ago, and now I've been in a rut too - doing the bare minimum for the most part, outside of work.

I just got started this weekend so could not be better timing! I've been to the gym 3x since Friday, not hard workouts yet but it's a start.

Next is a list of what I need to take care of...

GREAT thread!


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4374 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

persevere - we do seem to be in lockstep frequently. Thanks for the company.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a great thread! I was inspired to clean out my closet!

Good luck! You can do it!


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need to clean the fridge. Thanks for the inspiration.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17147 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Nik! Have dug out my list, am peeking at it I did do yoga this morning and am setting my alarm to get up before work and do it again.

Thanks for this thread!


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6423 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Look at you guys go! Awesome.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24435 | Registered: Aug 2011
persevere
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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay I'm not in bed yet - not quite on the wagon yet....but it's a goal. I did go to the gym tonight and did a few productive things at home.

List will be made tomorrow...promise!


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4374 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Must be something in the air....dare I say 'Spring'? I cleaned out some stuff from the fridge AND the pantry! I also took a stab at reconciling the joint account checkbook, it's a mess. MINE I'm happy to say is just fine!

Definitely good timing Nik!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 4:18 AM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so with you on this one. Realised a couple of weeks ago I was in survival mode just trying to make it to the next day. Still in overhaul mode though it's going to take a lot to get through this extremely busy time in my life right now.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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