You've sent your evidence. Now you should stop trying to make contact. If you keep trying, you may find yourself in trouble for harassment.
Unfortunately, you may never find the whole truth. That's something that many (most? all?) of us have had to deal with. Sorry you have to deal with that.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
My shrink tells me that I have to make it not matter anymore. Since we're divorcing, I expect that will eventually be the case, but it will take a while. I'm not there yet.
If you're trying to reconcile, then she has to give you the whole truth, and nothing but. If you're divorcing, you may have to make peace with your ignorance, as I have.