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User Topic: Selling wedding rings
roarlouder
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I absolutely love mine, and the stone has significant sentimental ties to my family (another thing he's ruined). It isn't a family stone, he bought it, it just is tied to memories and ancestors.

Anyway, I can't wear it. I thought about keeping as a dinner ring...thought about getting it made into something else...but it's tarnished. All it says to me now is my spouse thought flash and spending lots of money would balance out his actions...it now represents misguided values in my mind.

Has anyone sold their rings? I am wondering what the best route is, and how much one can expect to get compared to appraised value?


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

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Pass
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, I sold mine within two months of our separation. I just went into a neighbourhood rare coins store and said, "What'll you give me for my wedding ring?"

They gave me a surprised look, so I said, "Don't worry, I'm not using it anymore."

I don't know if I got the best value for it or not. No idea how to go about that.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2143 | Registered: Jan 2013
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I traded mine in to a chain store. They would only do diamonds for a diamond trade. So.....

I'm now sporting a kick ass set of diamond studs and a ring with a solitaire stone that I wear on my right hand. Seriously, these studs rival the ones that NFL players wear. My girlfriends laugh hysterically every time I wear them. They bring me great joy.

I sold his wedding band for the gold (couple hundred bucks), took that money, and went to the casino. Had a blast.

FTG


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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scarednbroken
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have several rings - promise ring, Christmas gifts, two anniversary bands (10yr, 15yr), his anniversary band, and wedding rings.

I gave them to my mom to sell she's a jeweler. I sold three small rings for the gold had no more than chips in them $75. One tanzanite ring had bad stones, so IDK what we will do with those, maybe for gold price. The his and hers 15 yr anniv eternity bands are worth 2000 and 1000 (appraised by jeweler). I am selling those on ebay. IDK what they will go for. The wedding bands I have to keep on until after I tell him I'm going for D. THen they will be ebay or gold or reset for kids.

The going prices are based on market. The 75 I got for the small ones was 40 more than the original offer. If you want fast money, you will have to settle on a lower price, if you have time, you can get more. Also, if you have certification papers, it increases the value. Appraisals can cost you upwards of $80 per ring.

I agree, I loved all my rings, we specifically chose each one, then I found out that they were "guilt purchases" and the wedding rings are lies. So they mean little now. Except a way to fund my D.


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I traded mine in to a chain store. They would only do diamonds for a diamond trade.

This is an option for me, and I intend to do that and buy something entirely new. Just haven't gotten around to it yet. May even buy a solitaire pendant instead of a ring! Right now they are sitting in the bottom of my jewelry box. I have no intention of passing on to any of my kids as they are tainted...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1206 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did a lot of research and chose to sell on Craigslist. I got two independent appraisals first (be sure to get a sale appraisal not an insurance appraisal).

A pawn shop will give you 10-20% of the retail value of a diamond ring. An estate jeweler will give you 20-35%, and then turn around and sell it for 50-60%. Occasionally you can find a consignment jeweler, who will sell it at 50-60% of the retail value, take a small cut, and give you a check only after it sells.

Craigslist (or any private sale) is a total crapshoot, and the more anxious you are for a quick sale, the more likely you are too get a lower price.

I was in no hurry, didn't need the money urgently, and decided to list mine at 60% and was prepared to relist weekly until someone agreed to my asking price, for up to six months. After six months I would consider reducing.

A bunch of online "jewelers" low balled me for just the diamond, and I turned them all down. A private buyer, renewing her vows, contacted me, we met in a public location (the bottom of a stairwell entrance to a DSW ) near her bank, and after she tried on and loved the ring, we walked next door and I stood beside her while the bank cut a cashier's check for the full amount. I deposited it on my way home.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 5:06 AM, February 26th (Wednesday)]


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lifestoshort
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

try diamondbistro.com lots of people sell there


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 691 | Registered: Mar 2008
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I, too, posted about this recently and ended up selling mine through craigslist. I met the buyer in a parking lot of a restaurant and followed him to the mall where he had a jeweler confirm 'whether or not it were a real diamond.' Which cost nothing.

Then he withdrew $$$ from the ATM, so that worked out very well.

I had also been getting ready to list it on ebay, but it turned out to be unnecessary.

There's also idonowidont.com (I think that's it?) where I also had it listed.


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
scarednbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Two places my mom suggests are www. Circajewels.com and du mouchelle auctions.

[This message edited by scarednbroken at 10:15 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)]


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
WestMonroe91
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, February 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well today I went to a Gold & Diamond Exchange store. I had no intention of leaving the store without selling it. I know I might have gotten more money elsewhere but that wasn't important.So even though my D is not final yet, this helps put the final nail in the coffin, so to speak.


BS-60 (me)
WS-49
DD-25, DS-21, DS-20

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